'Fashion weeks great help for entrepreneurs'

The burgeoning of fashion weeks in India is turning out to be a "great help" for students of fashion entrepreneurship, an expert said on Thursday.

In times of skyrocketing rents and the rising mall culture that can act as major deterrents for the growth of aspiring designers, it is vital for young creative thinkers to have hands-on learning experience and vital business, International College of Fashion (ICF) chief mentor Vani Bajaj said.

Fashion weeks are thus providing a worthy platform for the benefit of students, Bajaj said.

"The fashion weeks are for sure a great help," Bajaj said.

"The first step that the students take is by assisting the designers while they exhibit their collections. This not only helps them understand the thought process behind a designer's collection, but also helps them understand how to handle the customers.

"As they take to this understanding over the fashion weeks that are held, they also start forming their own business plans. The students are able to establish contacts with the people, which serves as a guide when they set out to start their own ventures," Bajaj added.

Another beacon of hope for aspirants is exhibitions.

"Any platform that enhances the business is always a welcome note for an entrepreneur. Designer hubs, exhibitions, fashion weeks, multi-brand outlets and online fashion retail, have all emerged to play a very important role within the business of fashion.

"Some of these platforms are more popular amongst the upcoming designers or retail brands as they are a lot more affordable and require less seed money for start-ups. Exhibitions provide the upcoming designers an access to the target market and buyers," Bajaj said.

Launched in 2009 and promoted by the Bajaj Capital Group, the idea behind ICF was to bridge the gap between designers and business professionals. The institute here offers three courses - BBA in Fashion Entrepreneurship (three years), MBA in Fashion Entrepreneurship (two years) and PG Diploma in Fashion Entrepreneurship (one year).

"The courses are designed to link creative thinking with business thinking in order to nurture creative and flexible entrepreneurs and creators of change," Bajaj explained, and added that their courses attract those who are keen to launch their signature labels.

At ICF, only 25 students make it to each course every year. Overall, the idea is to produce entrepreneurs who can design collections with the ability to brand, market and sell them well to the target market.

"ICF prepares young design professionals, not to compete with the established designer, but to compliment them," said Bajaj.

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Moob issues trouble men

Increasingly, men in the city are resorting to breast reduction surgeries.

Do looks really matter? Well, it looks like it does if the mounting number of breast reduction surgeries in the city is anything to go by. Every young man desires to have a hot bod, but not every one is lucky. An increasing number of young men, especially in their late teens and early 20s in the city have developed the condition called gynaecomastia, the development of breast tissue. The presence of man boobs or moobs, have shattered down the confidence of these youngsters and are preventing them from mingling with their friends and family, freely.

According to plastic and cosmetic surgeon Dr Raghu, who has been performing two breast liposuction and gland excision surgeries on an average every week, the surgeries have shot up because of the increase in awareness level. "It's not like these surgeries were not happening in the city before. They were taking place but at a much lesser frequency."

Unfortunately, those who have gynaecomastia are subjected to a lot of ridicule, at their schools, colleges or work places. "Most of the guys who frequent here come because they are scoffed at by their peers. Some also opt for surgery because they are unable to wear tight T-shirts. Some of them are so discomfited that they come without the knowledge of their family members," says Raghu.

One of the primary causes for the development of breasts in men is believed to be unhealthy eating habits, apart from congenital and hormonal reasons. "This is one of the repercussions of unhealthy eating habits that primarily comprises junk. No amount of exercise can reduce this fat as the breast tissue has many compartments. Interestingly, the number of surgeries shoots up during the months of May and June. Youngsters get operated during the vacations as this gives them time to heal," says consultant plastic surgeon Dr A Manohar.

These youngsters feel so awkward about their looks that they bow out of social gatherings. "Youngsters with these kinds of issues are jeered at and hence have such low self-esteem that they do not even talk it out with their parents. Parents should inculcate good eating habits and should encourage active physical life in their children. At the same time, as they grow old, they should provide them a shoulder to lean on. The affected person also should talk about any discontent with their parents," says counsellor KV Jayashree. Dietician Kumuthavalli sums up saying that youngsters should avoid fatty and sugary foods. "Instead, they should include fruits, vegetables, fibrous food, green leafy vegetables and sprouts in their diet. They should also eat on time to avoid the cravings for junk. Good food can go a long way in maintaining one's health and looks."

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Skip away the calories

It's not only the least expensive and most effective workout ever, skipping also improves your agility and reflexes.

If you think only a well-quipped gymnasium with the latest expensive exercise equipment can make you lose weight, think again. A simple, inexpensive jump rope and some nice music can help you too, if you are consistent with it and do it right. Here are some points you need to keep in mind...

- An hour of skipping burns off over 1,000 calories. And 10 minutes of it burns around the same amount of calories as running a mile for that duration.

- Start off by skipping for a few minutes daily and gradually increase the duration.

- Remember to keep changing your skipping style every 30 to 40 seconds to avoid getting tired faster.

- Skipping can do wonders for your arms — it gives a great workout to your shoulders and also works wonders for your legs and abs.

- It increases coordination between your feet and hand movements, improves your agility, reflexes, posture and flexibility and is also known to strengthen your bones.

- Being an amazing cardio workout, it allows your body to burn fat more effectively, when you are doing other less intense exercises. Besides, it increases your endurance levels and makes you more vigilant.

- Avoid jumping on the carpet (you could slip or twist your ankle), grass, concrete, or asphalt. Your exercise surface should be a wooden floor or an impact exercise mat.

- You need to consult your doctor before you take up skipping especially if you have problems with your knees, ankles and legs.

How to jump rope:
- Jumping rope needs coordinated movements and if you are new to it, you need to do both movements separately first and then merge them together.
- Jump without the rope first and later, hold the rope handles and swing it. Later combine both movements.

Why skip?
- For skipping rope, you do not need a gym; you can skip and jump anywhere
- It exercises your entire body
- You do not need an expensive trainer to tell you how to do this — just take a rope and skip away
- It is the least expensive workout ever created
You don't have to worry about the weather, like you do when you have to go for walks.

Tip:
Don't jump too high — ideally, it should not be more than an inch off the floor

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Makeup tips to get smokey eyes

Here is how to get the stunning smokey eyes for an evening out

The smokey smouldering eyes look, is something that has been there for a long time. And, the reason for that is simple — it is a look that can be carried off by most of us for if done well, it looks good on any kind of complexion. Another good thing about this look is that it can be sported with both traditional Indian outfits as well as western ensembles. Follow the simple tips to glam up your eyes...

Prime your eyes
Begin by applying a light coat of eye primer. For any kind of makeup, using a primer is important because it helps the makeup to stay on for longer. Dot over eyelids and then move all the way up till under your eyebrow.

Use light eye-shadow first
Pick a light brown or nude eye shadow and apply a thin coat on your eyelids. Stay on the lid only. Don't take the dark shadow anywhere close to your brow line.

Blend well
The trick is to blend and then blend some more. Use your fingers if you are deft with it or use absolutely clean brushes.

Line your eyes
Take a gel eye-liner and outline your upper eyelids. Then draw a line on your bottom lid too. Now smudge it with light deft strokes, to get the smokey look.

Coat lashes with mascara
You can now finish your smokey look with coat of mascara. Take the mascara brush and wipe off the excess on it and then while looking into the mirror with eyes wide open, apply a coat on your lashes from the roots to the tip in a zig-zag manner. Let it dry completely before you go for the second coat. Make sure you opt for a very light single coat on your lower lashes. Over done lower lashes look fake and unappealing.

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Signs you are ready for marriage

Marriage is a huge decision and it's best to think things through before you take the major step. It's one relationship that changes your life forever. Here are ways you can find out whether you are ready to make this big decision in your life.

You've found your Mr Right

The first step of knowing that you are ready for marriage is knowing that you've found your life partner. Often we come across people who we instantly click with and know that this is the person you would want to spend the rest of your life with.

You love spending time with him

If you love to spend quality time with him, then surely the two of you should get married. Not only will marriage make your commitment stronger but you will have him for the rest of your life with you.

Bringing out the best

If he/she brings out the best in you as a person, then you should tie the knot soon. It is very important for your partner to bring out the best in you as a person.

Do you see him as your partner in the future?

Your list of signs is incomplete without the fact whether you see your partner in your life in the future. Couples who are ready to get married think in terms of 'we' and not 'I'. If you are following the same line, then it's time for you to get married.

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How to do up your staircase

Make your staircase look as interesting as the rest of your house. Here's how...

When it comes to home decor, staircases can sometimes become one of the most neglected areas because we tend to underestimate it. Actually, staircases can, if done up well, add a certain charm to your interiors. For row houses, bungalows, penthouses and duplex flats, the staircase forms an integral part of the structure and is often located in the living room or in an important part of your home. You should make sure that they are nicely done up.

Wall of fame
Mandira Bedi's bungalow in Bandra has a beautifully done up staircase. She says, "Since it is an integral part of my home, I have taken special care to do it up. The decor at my home includes this area of the house and I like it that way. There are pictures of family and friends, vases of flowers, lights etc on my staircase."

Living room walls are not really ideal for putting up a lot of pictures of family and friends but the walls of your staircase can be like a gallery where you can display all your favourite pictures and get away with it! Since the stairways often lead upstairs to the private area of the house, keeping these personal images here will help them from being too much in the public view.

Light it up
You can go as creative as you want here. Overhead spotlights will make the stairs well-lit and safe. You can also use lights on the steps for effect. Gouri and Yash Tonkk have beautiful and very contemporary chandeliers on the landings of their staircase in their duplex apartment. "I liked these trendy chandeliers. They light up the stairway very nice and look very elegant and chic," says Gouri.

Take it to the next level
You can use wood, stone, carpeting on the stairs and you can make it look interesting with a nice handrail, a variety of which is available readily.

The perfect landing
The way you do up your landing can make or break the entire decor of the stairway. You can place a large vase or a pot of indoor plant or a tall floor lamp in the corner. Place interesting things but make sure that you do not clutter the stairway space.

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Forbes names E.L. James top-earning author

E.L. James, author of the '50 Shades' trilogy, has been named world's top-earning author by Forbes Magazine.

According to the list, the London-based writer had reportedly earned 95 million dollars between June 2012 and June 2013, which puts her ahead of the nearest rival James Patterson, the New York Post reported.

The list also features established writers such as Diane Steele on the 5th position, Stephen king on 10th and 'Harry Potter' Writer J.K. Rowling on the 15th position.

The magazine said that the list was based on the sales data, published figures and information from industry sources, which were gathered during the designated time frame.

James' debut books, which are based on sex and bondage, have become massive best sellers with over 70 million copies sold during the first eight months they were on sale in the US.

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Is your boss a woman?

Having a female boss could work in your favour if you're a man. However, if you're a woman, you could be in for some rough times...

We protest against the partial treatment meted out to them, rant against their sexist ways and cry hoarse about the universe's unfair preference of Mars over Venus. But, for all we say about men being chauvinistic pigs (and swines of other categories, orders and denominations too), turns out, if you're looking to move ahead in your job, your shiny, perfect, beautiful female boss, could be the single biggest impeding force (think Meryl Streep in The Devil Wears Prada). And in all probability, you're not surprised by this conclusion either. Because you've experienced it yourself —not only from your boss, but also from the girl next door (or cubicle), who appears to do absolutely everything in her power to make you look bad in front of the team.

According to a study published in the Social Science Research journal, women managers who break through the glass ceiling are more likely to support their male colleagues than their female co-workers. In fact, far from encouraging, they obstruct other ambitious women. Software engineer Rakini Yogesh says that though it might not be blatant, this behaviour has been observed in several offices, including her own. "There is definitely a trend where female bosses tend to favour men, when it comes task allotment and appraisals. Also, in a team with a female boss, it is not the only men who complain (largely driven by ego) but also girls, because they feel they're getting a raw deal, where the boss wants to be the only woman on top. Sadly, we girls are not favoured by the male bosses either, because many of them think we're 'just girls' after all."

HR consultant Ramesh Kumar reveals that this matter has been studied in HR circles and various conclusions have been drawn upon. He says, "One of the strongest possibilities is that female bosses favour their male subordinates because they don't want it to look like they're being partial to their own kind. Also, they want to meld in with the men, so that they can get more popular. In very rare cases, they do it out of insecurity — in the competence or looks department."

Sociologist Rashmi K believes that a large number of women do have some residual internalised misogyny. She explains, "In the older days, there were very few positions for women and as a survival tactic, they brought down their peers to get ahead in the game. But now, there is place for everyone — girls have to realize this. They don't have to bring one down to move to the next level. As for the bosses, they have to get professional and embrace their power to mentor their juniors, male and female, equally."

However, copy writer Shama Prasad, strongly believes that women indeed do share a strong kinship at the workplace. "In my office, the male to female ration is 5:1, and my senior, a woman, takes extra care of the junior girls, mentors us and gives us all the opportunities to grow. We share each other's work woes and thrive on the support we get from our girlie-network. In comparison, our male boss is utterly bigoted."

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Guavas are good for you

This inexpensive and humble food is regarded as one of the 'superfoods' nature has blessed us with. It has numerous health benefits

This tropical fruit, known as 'peru' locally, is easily available. And because they are quite cheap in terms of cost, everyone can afford them.

Guavas are sold in varying degrees of ripeness. However, it's best to quickly eat them within two days of getting ripe. You'll be surprised to know that this fruit, that we often take for granted, has so many health benefits. Read on to find out more:

- Guavas are beneficial in regulating blood pressure. It is said that one guava contains almost a similar amount of potassium that's present in bananas. Potassium reverses the effects of sodium, thereby regulating the balance of blood pressure. Also, it reduces cholesterol levels in the blood by preventing it from thickening.

- Consumption of guavas helps slow down the absorption of sugar in the blood. It is rich in fibre and is helpful for diabetic individuals. Also, studies have shown that a diet that is high in fibre (5.4 gm per 100 gm of fruit) is linked to a lower risk of developing Type 2 diabetes. Individuals suffering from constipation problems, too, can benefit form the high fibre content.

- Did you know that guavas contain four times more Vitamin C than oranges? Vitamin C contains antioxidant properties that protect cells from the damage of free radicals and is useful in lowering the risk of cancer.

- Even though guavas don't contain iodine, they are still beneficial in promoting healthy thyroid function, because it contains copper, which aids the production and absorption of hormones.

- Guavas are a good source of manganese that acts as an enzyme activator utilising nutrients like thiamine, biotin and ascorbic acid.

- If you want to optimise your brian function, turn to this fruit. Guavas are rich in the B group of vitamins. Niacin, better known as Vitamin B3, promotes blood circulation, thereby stimulating brain function. Vitamin B6, that is pyridoxine, helps in brain and nerve function.

- Women with fertility problems can eat guavas as they contain a good amounts of folate, which contain fertility-promoting properties.

- Eye problems can be kept at bay as guavas contain an abundance of Vitamin A that helps in improving vision.

- Guava is good for the skin, too. Because of its Vitamin E content, astringent properties and antioxidants, the skin is nourished. Skin ailments like scurvy can be dealt with due to the high Vitamin C content in guavas.

- Pink guavas are said to contain twice the amount of lycopene present in tomatoes. Lycopene protects the skin from being damaged by UV rays and also works against prostate cancer.

- Even the leaves of guava have medicinal properties. The juice of the leaves is said to provide relief from cold and cough by reducing the formation of mucus, disinfecting the respiratory tract and preventing bacterial activity in the throat due to its astringent properties.

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Rediscovering the wonders of Pune

Heritage and history have always been a part of the city's charm. Over the next few days, we will showcase what we believe to be our city's 15 wonders. We have also organised visits to some of these heritage destinations (see band below for the details)

Chaturshringi Temple

History: Built during the reign of the Chhatrapati Shivaji Raje Bhosle, the Chaturshringi Temple derives its name from a mountain with four peaks (Chatur means four). The premises also houses temples dedicated to Goddess Durga and Lord Ganesh — which includes eight miniature idols of Ashtavinayaka. These small temples are located on the four separate hillocks. The legend associated with Chaturshringi Temple has that a rich and prosperous merchant, Durlabhsheth Pitambardas Mahajan, an ardent believer in Goddess Chaturshringi had this temple built on the direction of the Goddess herself. Being a devout follower he had visited her temples located at various places but as he grew older he could no longer travel. It was then that the Goddess Chaturshringi appeared in his dream one night and told him, that if he could not travel to her she would instead opt to come stay near him. She directed him to have a mountain situated in the North West side of Pune dug up. On digging at the designated place a natural statue or a swayambhu idol of the goddess was found and a temple was built there.

To see: Open daily from 6 am to 11pm.

Shaniwarwada

History: The foundation stone of one of the most historically significant places in Pune was laid in the year 1730 on a Saturday which gave it the name Shaniwarwada as Shaniwar is Saturday in Hindi and wada is a place you stay at. Today, little remains of the original structure that comprised of additions made over years to this seat of Peshwa rulers of the Maratha Empire. A great fire in 1827, that lasted for a full seven days, gutted everything except heavy granite ramparts, strong teak gateways and deep foundations. One can see five gates here, namely Dilli Darwaza, the main gate of the complex, the Mastani Darwaja, Khidki Darwaja, Ganesh Darwaja, and Jambhul Darwaja.

Superstition attached: Many believe that the place is haunted because of the brutal assassination of the 13-year-old Peshwa heir. Many claim to still hear him crying for help on full moon nights.

To see: Light and sound show that depicts the story of the fort (7 pm daily).

Aga Khan Palace

History: Spread across an area of 19 acres, the Aga Khan Palace is a combination of Muslim and French architecture and has Italianate arches surrounded by well-laid out sprawling lawns and gardens. This landmark was built in 1892 by Sultan Muhammed Shah Aga Khan III who got it constructed to help the poor people in the neighbouring areas of Pune who had been drastically hit by famine. It was here that eminent freedom fighters such as Mahatma Gandhi, his wife Kasturba, Mahadevbhai Desai and Sarojini Naidu were interned or held as prisoners during the freedom struggle. Various things used by Mahatama Gandhi such as his writing desk, his bed and Kasturba Gandhi's sari, clothes and footwear have been preserved in this monument that has pictures of the Indian struggle for independence adorning its walls. This is also the place where Kasturba Gandhi and Mahadevbhai breathed their last.

Highlight: Mahatma Gandhi was held prisoner here.

To see: Open daily from 9 am to 5.30 pm.

Visit Aga Khan Palace with us on October 5 from 9am to 11.30am.

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Is your dog ‘just a pet’ or family?

A new research claims that the relationship between a dog owner and his or her dog falls under three categories.

According to Stuff.co.nz , the humanist relationship is where your dog is more or less a person for the owner - they dress them up, treat it like a child and often talk to them.

Any criticism of weight or shape is considered offensive.

The second category - protectionist - is where the owner 'respects' their dogs - they are part of the family but are essentially still a dog so will definitely be allowed inside with the family but no way are they allowed on the couches or beds.

Protectionists may be vegetarians and respect all animals overall, for instance - cat owners or rescue dog owners.

The third one is the Dominionists.

These are people like farmers, who believe their dog serves a purpose, which is to work, or hunt and are definitely not allowed inside.

The dog is not so much part of the family but more of a provider.

However, there may be another category - pro humanist - those who are definitely not vegetarians but do love animals and think that all animals deserve a chance to live.

But they also think of their dogs as humans sometimes and have a great relationship with them like people.

This may be throwing them a ball, playing hide and seek or doing some training with them.

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How to be a good parent

Being a parent in definitely rewarding, but you can't deny the fact that it's a hard job too. While nobody is born with great parenting skills, there are essentials you must keep in mind to become a good and responsible parent.

Showing your love and affection - Most parents are quick in showing their anger or displeasure to their children when they make a mistake, but very few show their affection, when it's time to express their feelings. All you have to do is say a 'Love you' or give your little one a hug to how him/her that you care.

Learn to listen to your child — A good parent will always listen to his child. It doesn't mean you have to leave aside everything and listen to every little thing your child says. But set aside a time every day, free from all distraction, where your child talks and you listen.

Setting rules — There will be times where you will have to be the bad one and say no to your child's demands. Children need to be disciplined as per rules (which you will have to set) so that they know that you expect a certain kind of behaviour form them. All this will help them in their adult life.

Giving positive reinforcement — If you are in the habit of reprimanding and criticizing your children when they are wrong, then you must also reward them, when they are right. Celebrating their little triumphs by simple words like 'good job' or 'well done' will give them motivation and encouragement.

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Stir up the girly ‘Pinky’ cocktail

What is the perfect companion at an all girls' sleep-over party? It's Pinky Vodka! And why not - it's pink, sweet (somewhat) and is 'the world's most beautiful vodka'.

Bring home the straight, glass bottle that almost resembles a tall perfume bottle with a baby pink hue exuding a sweet, floral aroma. Enjoy the flavour of rose petals, strawberries and other botanical extracts that is evident in every sip. But make sure you blend the drink with suitable pairings to create lavish cocktails for your evening party...

For Tickled Pinky Cocktail you will need...
1 part (30 ml) of Pinky Vodka
½ part (15 ml) of lychee puree
½ part (15 ml) of fresh lemon juice
2 parts (60 ml) of cranberry juice
Splash of sugar syrup
4 Fresh raspberries

Combine all ingredients, pour them into a shaker along with crushed ice and shake well. Strain the drink into a rock glass and garnish with a skewered raspberry.

For Pinky Rose Cocktail you will need...
2 parts (60 ml) of Pinky Vodka
1 part (30 ml) of sweet and sour
¼ 7(.5 ml) part of Triple sec
½ (15 ml) part of white cranberry juice
A splash of lime juice

Combine all ingredients, pour them into a shaker with crushed ice and shake well. Strain the drink into a martini glass and garnish with rose petals.

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Chittoor's Horsley Hills touch the clouds

The quaint hill station of Horsley Hills in Chittoor district is the perfect refuge for weekend holidayers. Pristine air, panoramic views of the surrounding hillocks and dense forests, perfect weather and tranquillity — can one ask for more?

Standing at a dizzying height of 4,312 feet (1,314 meters) above sea-level, the unspoilt and tranquil environs of Horsley Hills in Chittoor district command breath-taking, panoramic views of the lush expanse of the broken hill ranges of the Southern portion of the Eastern Ghats. Located near the South Western border of Andhra Pradesh and Karnataka, this "Andhra Ooty", with its rich foliage, wildlife and pleasant climate is undoubtedly one of the underrated hill stations in the country.

It is a little known fact that the hills, called Archeans, are geologically some of the oldest. The idyllic hill station has temperatures that range from 5 degrees celcius to a maximum of 32 degrees celcius. And on most days, the occasional clouds that pass by you, leave you in awe. Situated at a distance of 56 kms from Madanapalle, it is well-connected to Hyderabad, Tirupathi, Bangalore and Chennai, and boasts of several tourist spots and adventure sports in the vicinity.

The area is a treasure trove of deciduous flora and fauna and rich in eucalyptus, silver oak, mahogany, coffee, jacaranda, allamanda, gulmohar and flowering plants. It is also
famous for red sanders and sandalwood.

The dense forests are home to several wild animals and birds. Panthers, sambars,
wildboars, bears, four-horned antelopes, jungle-fowls, porcupine are found in the ravines.

The environs of the charming hill station is home to several species of birds. Great Indian bustard for one, is the more famous and fast-disappearing species found here. The hills are also frequented by migratory birds like the red-throated flycatcher, Montagu's harrier, blue-headed rock-thrush, ultramarine lycatcher etc.

The invigorating scent of the eucalyptus trees, the soul-stirring sights of the underlying expanse, the echoing chirp of exotic birds and the tranquil aura that encompasses the hill station make it the perfect getaway for adventure-loving friends, couples and families alike.

Steeped in history
The hillocks got their name from WH Horsley, a British civil servant who served as the Collector of Cuddapah (Kadapa) between 1863-1867. In awe of the idyllic environs, he built the first building here — a summer bungalow — in 1862, that is now called 'Forest Bungalow'. The tiles used for flooring were imported from England in 1863.

Originally, the hillock was called Yenugu Mallamma Konda by locals and the name has a rather interesting folklore history associated with it. According to local folklore, it got its name from Mallamma, who was a saintly lady, raised by elephants in these hills around 300 years back. A temple in her name, exists 20 kms from Horsley Hills. Also situated 20 kms outside Horsley Hills, en route Madanapalle, are three hillocks situated in a straight line that house three Mallikarjunaswamy temples on their respective summits. The famed Rishi Valley School that was founded by Madanapalle-born philosopher Jiddu Krishnamurti, is located at the foot of the very hills.

Environmental Park
The Environmental Park, known as EEC centre, was built by Hyderabadi environmentalist Balijepalli Venkata Subba Rao. The lush park is a mini-ecosystem in itself, complete with trees, coffee plants, a crocodile enclosure, a mini-zoo, lake Mansarovar and a
nature study centre. The study centre has a museum and also an AV room where one can watch videos on wildlife, apart from a library.

Gaali banda/Wind rock
The hillock that boasts of a cliff slope, made of a single rock that extends several thousand feet downwards, is worth a visit. One can walk down the entire hillrock, admiring the unobstructed view of the low-lying expanse. Enjoy the rejuvenating heavy winds as they blow past you.

Highview seeing point
It is the most popular spot located at the highest summit, that offers all-encompassing view of the underlying ravines, valleys, broken hillocks and dense forests. The view of the endless expanse, dotted by hills and forests is in itself worth the trip to the hill station. Don't miss the sunset from this point — it is truly a spectacle not to be missed.

Kalyani tree
Do visit the 148-year -old eucalyptus tree — 'Kalyani' — that is visible from the Kadiri-Madanapalle road, that is 70 kms away, on clear days. Planted by WH Horsley in 1859, the tree was awarded the Maha Vriksha Puraskar a few years ago.

Lake Gangotri and Mansarovar
Gangotri is located at the entry of the hills, while Manasarovar is found next to the study centre in the Environ-mental Park. Folklore has it that both lakes never dry up.

Tourist spots near Horsley Hills
World's largest Banyan tree
Thimmamma Marrimanu banyan tree, that is located at a distance of 75 kms from Horsley Hills, was awarded the Guinness Record title of the 'World's biggest banyan tree' in 1989. Spread over eight acres, the sprawling banyan tree is named after Thimmamma, a lady who jumped into the funeral pyre of her husband and transformed into the tree with her husband, according to folklore. The tree houses a temple and Thimmamma's samadhi. The temple is very popular and is known to bestow the miracle of birth upon childless couples. The place is open from 6 am to 9 pm and the Tirumala Tirupati Devasthanams (TTD) management is all set to take over the maintenance of the temple, that is currently overlooked by the village committee.

The famed temples
Three temples atop three hillocks that are aligned in a straight line around Horsley Hills and Madanapalle are popular tourist spots in the Chittoor district. Devotees throng the temple on Maha Shivatri and full-moon nights. The Sri Akanda Malleswara Swamy Devasthanam is perched atop the Malliah Konda — the middle hill — located in Angallu near Madanapalle.

Where to stay
The most popular choice with visitors is the AP Tourism Hill Resorts that is perched atop the hills. The resorts is a comfy haven, equipped with modern-day amenities and services. Apart from cottages, rooms, the resort boasts of a swimming pool surrounded by hills, a Kerala ayurveda centre that is a unit of Santhigiri Ashram, a bar, a full-fledged restaurant, a kids play area, a conference complex and adventure sports facilities.

Adventure sports area
People can choose from a wide array of exciting activities like zorbing, rappelling and trekking that can be booked for a minimum batch of 10 participants. Burma bridge, earthquake, spider web, rope sliding, horizontal ladder are some of the high rope activities one can opt for, besides the trampoline, archery, etc. The adventure sports are open from 7 am to 6 pm and anyone above 5 years are eligible.

Swimming pool
Nestled between scenic hills, the swimming pool is open from 8 am to 6 pm. Two adults and a child staying at the resort, are entitled to one hour of swimming at no extra cost. One can also opt for fun activities like water-walking in the swimming pool.

Room stay
There's no dearth of the types of accommodation one can opt for at the resorts based on one's preference and budget.

Weekday tariffs that apply from Monday to Thursday are a tad cheaper than weekend tariff. Breakfast is complimentary.

Whisper Winds (8) — `1,445
Wind Whistle (6) — `1,223
Wild Winds (AC) (8) — `2,335
Wind Fall (4) — `2,558
Horsley Suite (AC) (1) — `6,671
Governor's Bungalow (AC) (6) — ` 2,224
Cottages (big) (4) — ` 1,557
Cottages (small) (6) — ` 735

Prices for stay between Monday and Thursday, inclusive of taxes

Room bookings can be made round-the-clock over phone, the APTDC website or via email. One can call 08571-279323/324, 09440272241 or 09951611040 to book rooms or email aptdc.horsleyhills@gmail.com. All debit and credit cards are accepted.

- All rooms have room service and the rooms are clean, self-sufficient and are well-maintained.
- The check-in and check-out time is 12 noon.
- Lunch buffet is `115 per person
- One can opt to dine at a make-shift table near the room, set up under the stars.
- Music and campfire can be set up at a cost of `5,000 between 7.30 and 10.30 pm.
- There is no ATM on the hill, so ensure you withdraw cash at the nearest towns Angallu or Madanapalle.

How to reach
From Hyderabad (524 kms)
Buses: Direct overnight
private and government-run buses to Madanapalle are easily available.
Train: You can travel from Hyderabad to Tirupati by train and Tirupati to Madanapalle by bus. Catch the Kacheguda-Bangalore Express to reach Dharmavaram. The Dharmavaram-Pakala train halts at Madanapalle Road Station.
Road: Drive down to Horsley Hills via Anantapur and Madanapalle.

From Bangalore (140 kms)
Buses: Private buses run every hour during the day from Kalasapalayam bus stand. KSRTC and APSRTC buses leave from Majestic bus stand every hour.

From Tirupati (123 kms) and
Cuddapah (125 kms)
There are buses every hour in the day to Madanapalle.

Mandanpalle to Horsley (40 kms)
Autorickshaws and taxis are available on hire.

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Don't get pushed around at work

Wondering how to tackle that pushy colleague at work? Experts tell Lisa Antao ways to do so.

Pushy individuals exist everywhere. In most cases, when such an individual is either a family member or a friend, despite having to deal with their nagging behaviour you know that somewhere they may have your good interests at heart. But you certainly can't tell the same about a pushy colleague, who is trying to 'boss' over you and give you a hard time at work. Does reading the above lines induce a deja vu of your office bully? If yes, then read on to find out how to deal with such a person.

The 'Push' factor
Let's begin by analysing such an individual. The term 'pushy' itself suggests some extra force or energy applied. Hence, a pushy person is someone with high physical suggestibility and behaviour pattern. They assume that with loud, direct, proactive, persuasive behaviour they can overrule and over power the emotional suggestible, explains clinical hypnotherapist and corporate wellness consultant Dr Hetal Desai.

If you're wondering what drives these individuals to behave in such an unpleasant manner, psychologist Neha Patel explains, "One reason is that they have a strong need for control. If things aren't the way they like, they try their best to manipulate the situation by either nagging or intimidating, disregarding other people's work, passing demeaning comments, blaming others for faults and eventually getting things to go their way."

This kind of behaviour could stem from their childhood experiences, where the only way they could be heard or get what they wanted by being in control. Also, without being the one in control, they tend to be insecure. Their controlling behaviour is just a way for them to feel that they are powerful and have an identity, elaborates Patel.

How to deal with them
We agree that interacting with such a person is a pain in the neck. However, you need to be tactful while dealing with them simply because you're the one at the receiving end, not him/her. Also, these people know the ropes of playing dirty. Dr Desai advises that "pulling your own strings" being firm and polite is the key. Being very clear in your own thoughts — in all that you are doing and want to achieve will lead to clarity in communicating better. One has to release all fears and insecurities to stand for what they feel and believe.

Patel suggests the following tips:

Be assertive: Many times, pushy persons know whom they can intimidate and they pick on individuals who are vulnerable or have a difficulty saying no.

Be alert: Be aware of what's happening around you and don't get carried away. A pushy person will try to cajole and emotionally blackmail you into changing your mind. So, be firm.

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Uzupis, a ‘country’ for dreamers and artists

A city district born out of rebellion against the Soviet retains its streak of independence. With its own constitution, Lithuania's Uzupis is a 'country' for artists and dreamers

If you've gone looking for Utopia in literature and art, here's a city where you can encounter it, literally. As we lapse into a new year, tinkling old glasses, and snickering with an even more seasoned cynicism, perhaps a journey to utopia is the best gift we can give ourselves in the new year.

Uzupis, a district in the city of Vilnius in Lithuania, declared itself an independent republic in 1997. Spread over 148 acres on the right bank of the river Vilnele, Uzupis residents have their own passport, and the district-country has four different flags, one for each season. The people celebrate their own special holidays and festivals. Uzupis, or the Republic of Angels as it came to be called, has its own constitution too, with rules like, 'Everyone has the right to love', 'Everyone has the right to be idle' and 'Everyone has the right to realize his negligibility and magnificence'.

Two decades ago, this district was filled with art galleries and a few hundred bohemian residents. In the '90s, after Lithuania broke away from the Soviet, a group of artists and youngsters decided to take on the city council over the neglect of Uzupis, at that time a derelict and run-down locality. They anointed the late American rockstar Frank Zappa as their patron saint and decided to rekindle the spirit of independence, something that had been lost in 70 years of oppression to USSR.

I would not have found Uzupis if it were not for my guide, Egle Mickeviciene. Angels on the windowsills, cherubs and pottery, brilliant graffiti, shabby cluster of crumbling 19th century houses next to spruced up apartments — Uzupis is atmospheric. I walked uphill, along the main street and saw many cul-de-sacs and courtyards. The symbol of Uzupis — an open hand with a round hole in the middle of the palm to indicate blisters on a worker's hand — hung around me on boards and banners. There are many interpretations for the country's symbol that is also stamped on passports. For Egle, it meant that you may own everything, but you cannot take away anything after death.

As I walked through the streets, I saw graffiti stencilled, hand sprayed or drawn on grey, drab walls. On a crumbling wall in Paupio Street, I read the offbeat Constitution in nine languages, with its 41 articles etched on metal plaques.

Uzupis was formed by dreamers, free spirits and artists as well as philosophers on April Fool's day — every year, a national feast is organ- ised to commemorate that. Originally inhabited by Russians and Jews, the post-war years saw the once-bustling district of craftsmen abandoned. The buildings became squalid, bandits and tramps began to live in the shells of houses. Today, two sets of people inhabit this place: the nouveau riche, who find it fashionable to buy, renovate and live here, because of which the price of real estate in this area has shot up. (Even the mayor of the city has a house here, Egle informed us.) The second lot are the impoverished bohemians — artists, photographers and craftsmen — who are fighting to retain their country's relevance in the midst of rising prices.

Uzupis has its ambassadors in different countries; to become a citizen, all you have to do is share the beliefs enshrined in the constitution. Many people are honorary citizens already, including the Dalai Lama. I reached the triangular piazza of Uzupis, dominated by a brass and bronze angel blowing a trumpet towards the heavens. The Prie Angelo cafe at the square looked cosy and inviting. For a respite from the biting winds, I stepped in and ordered a cappuccino. Sitting on a table, I looked at the angel through the frosted windows.

After coffee, I began my walkthrough. At the Galera, also called the Uzupis Art Incubator, I encountered a vibrant space that is used for craft workshops, exhibitions, and music performances. The house is a riot of colours with beautifully painted walls, and young students of the Vilnius Art Academy have worked to make this space what it is.

Humorous figures lined the walls like that of a drunken man clutching his empty bottle. Walking over the main bridge, I was intrigued by the sight of locks and padlocks on either side. Egle explained that couples lock their love and throw the keys in the river in the belief that their bond will remain strong forever. At cafe Uzupio Kavine, I bought myself a copy of the Uzupis Constitution in English. Sitting on the deck of the bright red outdoor terrace, I ate a delicious meal of fried rye bread with garlic and cheese, and washed it down with Lithuanian beer, Svyturys Extra. Ahead of me, the river wound its way along a bank lined with black and white photographs, beeches and willows, and beyond them, a synagogue lay ensconced by grass-covered hills.

Every April Fool's day, the seven bridges that lead into Uzupis become the state border. There are celebrations all day long with parades and concerts. After Easter, they celebrate the White Tablecloth day when the people bring food left over from Easter feast and share it with others.

Uzupis celebrates New Year's Eve on March 21, not December 31. There's a good reason for that: March 21 is the day of the Spring Solstice and is also called the Day of Traps. Many people burn their old diaries, or write some negative thoughts on a piece of paper and burn it in a bonfire. The idea, says Egle, is to do away with old prejudices.

Now that's what a New Year celebration sounds like.

Fact file for Uzupis

How to get there: Fly Finnair from New Delhi to Helsinki and connect to Vilnius

Where to stay: If you are on a budget, stay at Hotel Tiltot near the Cathedral. A slightly more expensive option is the tasteful Hotel Shakespeare tucked in a quiet lane in Old Town where each room is themed on a particular writer (www.shakespeare.lt)

What to see: A walking tour of Old Town allows you to see some of the 40 churches in town with a wealth of architecture, and take a funicular ride to the castle for a bird's eye view. Spend a day at Uzupis and take a day trip to the medieval town of Trakai.

What to buy: Pick up amber jewellery, fine linen, pottery and glass and rough hewn angels in wood.

What to eat: Lithuanian staples include zeppelins (dumplings) with potatoes and meat, cold beetroot soup, kepta duona (black bread fried in oil and rubbed with garlic), and beer. Try the local beer at the Prie Katedros Beer Restaurant on Gedimino Avenue. Missing ghar ka khana? Sue's Indian Raja near the Cathedral is divine.

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Are you jealous of a mother-to-be?

Baby envy is a growing worry for women in their 30s.

Oh, beware, my lord, of jealousy; it is the green-ey'd monster, which doth mock, said Iago in Shakespeare's Othello.

While Iago spoke about lovers in conflict, a new envy has crept in lately and this doesn't have to do with man and woman. Baby envy is the latest social divide to take over the minds of women in their 30s. Also known as profound infertility envy, this is when a woman is envious about the fact that every woman around her is getting pregnant and she isn't. Interesting much? Then read on.

Ashmita Reddy took her time to get married. After she met her husband at 25, she took another five years to get married. Soon, she realised that may not have been a good idea as she went through problems to conceive. "I had this mix of emotions inside me. I hated going on because somehow or the other, I'd see a pregnant woman. My insides would shrivel up and I'd come home feeling angry and sick!" says Ashmita.

Prarthna Bajaj, a new mum recalls how she met someone like Ashmita during her baby's delivery. "The lady felt very out of place there. She asked me a lot of weird questions about my baby but I guess those were genuine questions of concern," says Prarthna. She also recalls how a friend underwent the same kind of pressure and got over it. "She focused on her career and spent more time with her sister's kids. Later she adopted a kid and I think that made her happier than ever," smiles Prarthna.

Sangeetha Makesh, women and children behavioural expert, says that there is a biological explanation for almost everything that the human psyche undergoes. "Oxytocin, a naturally occurring hormone, is present in a woman's body when she is expecting. It induces labour, helps in lactation and provides that mother-baby bond. We call it maternal instinct but that is actually the work of the oxytocin," says Sangeetha.

Citing the example of a friend who channelised her energy towards her career, Sangeetha explains, "This channelising is called sublimation and that's how she got over baby envy. We feel jealous when we are deprived of someone else's love. The same way, women in their 30s feel deprived when they don't have an avenue to channel all their instincts. It is this deprivation that is manifested as jealousy." With solutions like sublimation and adoption, you are sure to have no baby blues!

(Some names changed on request)

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Cats don’t ignore owners as believed

Cats, who seem to try to hide their feelings, do pay attention to their owners, a study has revealed.

The study revealed that cats may not obey their owners but they usually adore their human caretakers, Discovery News reported.

Co-author Atsuko Saito of The University of Tokyo said that dogs have evolved, and are bred to follow their master's, however, same is not the case with the cats, which is why they appear aloof sometimes.

Co-author Kazutaka Shinozuka of the University of South Florida College of Medicine said that previous studies had suggested that cats evolved to act like kittens around their owners, and humans treated their pet cats similar to the way they treated babies.

He said that to form baby-parent like relationships, owner recognition may be important for cats.

For their study, the researchers played strangers recordings, as well as of the cats' owners, to the felines, however the cats could not see speakers.

The felines reacted to human voices, not by orienting behaviour and not by vocalizing or moving their tails.

They also sometimes displayed pupil dilation, which could be a sign of powerful emotions, like arousal and excitement.

These reactions happened more often when the felines heard their owners, or after they became habituated to, or familiar with, strangers' voices.

The researchers explained that after cohabitating with humans for 10,000 years, domestic cats now have are able to communicate with humans, who seem to understand them mostly.

The study is set to be published in the July issue of Animal Cognition.

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Your shoes say much about you

Your footwear can determine the personality you want to project.

Love your sparkly stilettos and those impossibly high pair of strappy sandals? Or are your sturdy, lace up shoes or your practical Mary Jane brogues, the shoes you swear by?

Trend watchers now say that a person's footwear can transform their personality. For instance, a stylish pair of sandals in ladylike heels reportedly shows that you have classic tastes. Wearing flat shoes or sandals all the time shows that you are grounded, down-to-earth and laidback too. A pair of serious shoes in jet black or deep brown with mid heels can show that you are the boss whereas high heeled boots can make the wearer look very powerful and smart.

The interesting aspect of this study lies in the fact that you can wear different shoes and change your entire personality. You can have fun with footwear and even improve your mood for the day. For instance, bright sandals, wild patterns, details like straps, bows, tassles, buckles can make a person look extroverted and sexy. Pretty stilletos immediately add length to the legs and changes a woman's silhouette. When you wear flat footwear, you immediately look relaxed and comfortable. A pair of gorgeous floral pumps can make you seem instantly sweet and feminine.

So, always pay attention to what your footwear because it conveys all kinds of messages to an onlooker. Try different looks right through the week, so that you can sport a new personality each time and feel amazing too.

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Diet tips for healthy living

Including a lot of fibre in your diet is the first step towards losing weight. It helps you feel full and also aids digestion.

Here are a few more tips that will help in dieting.

- Drink lots of water as it flushes out all the toxins from the body.
- Stock healthy food: Nuts, fresh fruits and green veggies.
- Don't ever skip your meals because the body starts to store fat if it doesn't get meals on time thus making you eat more later.
- Throw away all processed, fried, fatty and cheesy foods.
- Don't ignore your cravings; sometimes it's okay to give in. Help yourself to a small serving of whatever you want to eat and savour it.

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It's a green diet for dogs too

It's not just people who are turning over a "green" leaf, but looks like dogs have joined the fad too.

With most people adopting a vegetarian lifestyle now, pet lovers prefer to feed the same to their dogs. They put their pet on a balanced diet of veggies and rice. So if you see a pet eating veggies, you can pretty much figure out its owner's lifestyle! On the other hand, if you're a non-vegetarian then your dog gets to eat remains like the bones and a little bit of meat too.

A dog's protein requirement is different when compared to us. So the point here is not if your pet can survive on a vegan diet, but if their nutrient intake is sufficient? Lakshmi Kala Vardharajan doesn't agree with the fact that feeding them just vegetables would do any good. "I feel our pets must be treated like our own kids." Anjana Damodharan echoes the same sentiment when she says vegetarianism is not advisable for dogs since it's not their natural diet. "Maybe I am baised but I am a vegetarian, so I keep my dog on that diet. It's hard to find people and their pets with different eating habits.Your lifestyle decide what your pet would eat." On another note, Rohit Kalingarayar, an agriculturist and canine lover suggests that fish is good for pups and turning them veg is not a viable option as their fur loses luster. "I have seen people give their dogs medicines instead of natural foods which must be avoided." Raj Bharath has two Dalmatians, one vegetarian and the other a meat eater. One of them lives on a strict diet of boiled vegetables. He says that there is a marked difference in the skin texture of his dogs "My veggie dog has lesser hair fall, silky and smooth skin. So, I am careful about what I feed them." When talking about lifestyle, he agrees with the fact that a pooch's lifestyle is similar to that of its owner. It's not just about the food, their dinner and sleep timings too are same. "My pets love their afternoon siesta. Just like me!" he grins. Violinist Viji Krishnan is a strict vegetarian, but she gives her German Shepherd, some non-veg food supplements too. "It's difficult to restrict them to a particular kind of diet for they might miss out on important nutrients and carbs. This is why I stick to dog food which has everything"

The question of lifestyle could be a matter of choice and cannot be generalized. Saravanan, a veterinarian is quite concerned about the lifespan of dogs these days. "A dog's lifespan used to be 20 years. It is now reduced to 15. Longevity is definitely a cause of worry for pet lovers who consider them as an integral part of their family. Herbivorous animals live longer while compared to their carnivore vegetarian counterparts," says Saravanan.

There's no conclusive evidence on the effect of veg or non-veg food on animals' health. But the bottomline is to ensure your pet gets a nutritious diet that gives him a long life.

Checklist
- Consult a veterinarian to analyze what's best and how much food should be given to your dog.
- Chart out a balanced diet plan for your pet.
- It is always essential that your pet gets some sort of exercise. Regular walks will help the dog a lot.
- Do not over feed your dog. Feeding him all that you eat may be your way of pampering your pet. But health wise it's a strict no-no.

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Is Buddha lucky for your home?

He's a lucky charm, but is he really the Buddha?

The 'Laughing Buddha' is the most popular luck charm being passed around the world. But there's a confusion surrounding his name. A Chinese folklore deity, he is called the Budai for his jolly countenance. He's often seen as a wandering, cheerful monk, with a large protruding stomach, wearing a robe, and carrying sackcloth. Sometimes he shown seated on a cart drawn by boys, or holding an oogi (a wish giving fan). While Japan refers to him as Hotei, one of the Seven Lucky Gods and the patron of poor children, some Buddhist traditions believe him to be Maitreya, the future Buddha. Messages of peace, generosity, wisdom and kindness are attributed to him. According to legend, if one rubs the Laughing Buddha's great belly, it brings forth wealth, good luck, and prosperity.

Confusion
Budai is often confused for the Buddha in West. But in reality, the Chinese name Budai has no connection with the Sanskrit word, Buddha.

Trivia
The 'Laughing Buddha' as Hotei is also said to be the patron saint of restaurateurs and fortunetellers.

Charm quotient
The 'Laughing Buddha' is popular as a house-warming gift. It is best to be gifted one, than buying it, should be kept on an elevated surface facing the main door, and never on the floor. It should also not be kept in the bedroom or the dining room.

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How chicken came to rule the roost

With chicken consumption at an all-time high in Kerala, we probe what is it about chicken that has made the once sea food crazy Malayali go ga ga over it

When the recent price hike in onion, diesel and gold sent the rest of the country into a tizzy, the average food-loving Malayali was left ranting for a different reason altogether.

We are talking about the "crisis" that hit the local poultry industry when a hike in the base price of chicken brought in from outside the state sent prices soaring. 'What will we eat now' — the state seemed to lament in unison. And if the statistics released recently by the Poultry development corporation kerala are anything to go by, then it seems like Kerala had very good reason to cry foul at this poultry price hike.

Sample this: Annually, Malayalis consume 3.35 lakh tonne chicken worth `3,100 crore on an average, of which, more than 60% is imported from the neighbouring state of Tamil Nadu. The number might sure seem mind-boggling, but then, truth is that no meal in Kerala today is complete without a helping of chicken on the plate. With the import of chicken cut down by 1/3rd, there were no chicken items on the menu in several hotels in the city for the past couple of days. "when we told customers there is no chicken, some ordered beef and fish items. But many left without eating. A lot of people come here just for our chicken dishes," says Shafi, an employee at a popular food outlet.

All this makes one wonder, whatever happened to the fish-loving Malayali? since when did chicken become our staple diet?

"Malayalis, Goans and Bengalis were always sea food lovers, and these states were considered the sea food capitals of India," says celebrity chef and restaurateur Naushad and adds, "But through the years, mutton, beef and fish were all equally popular. Chicken was reared only in homes and it was the custom to kill a home-grown chicken to treat guests."

But all that changed with the entry of boiler chicken in the market. A broiler chicken would weigh up to 1.5 kg in a span of 1.5 months, so suddenly the price of chicken dipped. And the meat loving Malayali happily welcomed the fleshy broiler counterpart of the bony country chicken into the local diet. Cost factor apart, it's the ease of cooking that makes chicken favourable, says Sudheerkumar, executive chef at a city hotel. "Chicken is easier to chew, digest and a variety of preparations can be made if you experiment with it," adds Sudheerkumar. "Beef gets tough when fried but chicken becomes softer. People are also becoming aware of the health benefits of chicken over red meat," he says.

The easy availability of chicken, plus that fact that it is easy to cook, has also contributed to it taking over the market, adds Naushad. "It's a favourite among the new generation, many of whom hate the smell of fish. Chicken can be bought cleaned and even marinated, and so it's hugely popular among bachelors living alone or young homemakers who can't be bothered to spend much time cooking. There is no feast without chicken really."

Is there a flip side?
Foodies think there is nothing wrong with this new found love for chicken. However health experts seem to think that it's best to exercise moderation. Mumtaz Khalid Ismail, consultant nutritionist at a city hospital says, "There is no proof that broiler chicken is injected with hormones for fattening them up. There is a widespread belief that the early onset of puberty in children today is a direct result of broiler chicken consumption. But I see no correlation; I have noticed the same phenomenon in purely vegetarian children as well. It is to do with the lifestyle, more than one food item," she says. However, like many other dieticians, she says that it is best to avoid consuming chicken in large quantities, on a daily basis. "Nadan chicken is the safest bet of course, but whichever the variety, do not consume more than 100 gm a day. Also, try to alternate between fish and chicken," says nutritionist Nissy Cyril.

Sudheer Kumar points out that we have worse things to worry about than hormones in broiler chicken. "There are certain norms in the processing of meat which are not followed in our country. The fact that it doesn't taste bad is no guarantee that it is fresh. The chopping boards in slaughterhouses are not sanitised properly either," he says.

Mumtaz cautions that fried chicken should never be consumed regularly from hotels and fast food joints. "Hotels brush fried chicken with transfat to make it tastier, which is very unhealthy," says Mumtaz.

For now though, it seems like it would take more than just a few health concerns to make Malayalis take a break from their favourite dish.

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The well-kept secrets of Angkor Wat

If you look beyond the smiling Buddha faces of Bayon and the towers of Angkor Wat, you might stumble upon a sleepy district lost somewhere in the shadows of its more popular neighbour Siem Reap.

Battambang, surprisingly the second largest city in Cambodia, is where I finally found the bona fide flavour of the country and which doesn't adhere to rules laid down for its tourist-centric trail.

Initially, I wanted to take a boat to Battambang from Siem Reap, despite knowing that the journey time would be doubled. The water levels of the Tonle Sap river were quite low, so that made sure I stuck to the three-hour road journey. To my surprise, this town that came across as a laid-back settlement, was actually the second-largest in Cambodia and has witnessed its fair share of tumultuous events in Cambodia's long, mutinous history.

The bamboo train
Apart from the past that it still retains, Battambang has also held on to its ancient bamboo train system. Extremely impatient for a ride, I left the very same day for Odambang, the village from where you can 'board' the train. The train is nothing more than a large bamboo platform mounted on train axles powered by a small gokart engine, and as mundane as it looks, the journey atop is nothing short of exhilarating.

I didn't realise it till I sat on it, and waited for the young boy to pull the engine cord that brought the bamboo train to life. Within a few seconds, we were hurtling through greenery with fierce speed. With no roof, doors, or seatbelts and with only a railing to hold on to, it's more thrilling than a rollercoaster ride. The most quirky part is that when another bamboo train approaches from the opposite side, you have to stop to get off, heave the cart off the tracks, change positions and resume! It could actually be tiresome once the novelty wears off, but the teamwork of strangers is quite endearing.

For ages, the rural parts of the surrounding region have had the bamboo train as its most dependable mode of transport. I was sad to learn that it was phasing out and would soon be replaced by the modern railway system, and glad that I had a chance to experience it before that happened.

Art of making rice paper
Around the main Battambang town are a host of elfin villages that introduce you to the rural heart of Cambodia in a way that none of the other places here do. I started this tryst in one such village where I saw and learnt the traditional way of making 'rice paper'. This is not the paper used for artwork but refers to the thin, translucent layer of pounded and steamed rice used to wrap fresh spring rolls.

Until I spent hours there observing how the rice is boiled, drained and milled before even starting the real process, I would have never thought of the humungous effort that goes into making an everyday dish here. My remork or 'tuk tuk' driver was on a mission to show me 'real Cambodian food' and the village of Phsa Prohok welcomed us with a stench that pervaded my senses for days after.

Fish paste, which is a condiment of freshly pounded fish of all kinds that is left to rot, is a major ingredient in authentic homemade Cambodian food. Though I was assured by everyone that once cooked, the smell evaporates, there was no way I could be convinced to buy some and try it out. What I did buy though was the delicious bamboo sticky rice. Though it is found pretty much all over Cambodia, the sticky rice in Battambang, the 'rice bowl of Cambodia' is famous all over. Getting off from the ubiquitous hammock that Cambodians love to lie in, the young girl at the roadside shack heated one of the bamboo pieces over fire and cracked it open to reveal the ready mix of steamed rice, coconut milk and nuts. Despite not being a rice lover, I devoured it in minutes. No visit to the palate trail is complete without a visit to the petite Battambang Winery, the sole winery of Cambodia, so we made a pit stop there to sample the traditional red and white wines apart from the locally brewed brandy and delicious ginger ale.

The mini Angkor Wat
While Angkor Wat is Cambodia's biggest draw, few know that tucked away in Battambang is a primeval temple that is believed to have been the inspiration for the magnum opus. A long flight of steps up the quiet hillock takes you to the Banon temple which was built in the 11th century by Udayadityavarman II. It has five towers pointing towards the sky and looks like a smaller version of Angkor Wat.

Being surrounded by dense foliage, it's hard to get anything more than a glimpse of the expanse below. But if you want a grand view, the best bet is the hill atop which rests the temple Phnom Sampeu. It commands a surreal sight of Battambang in the distance and a vast canopy of green in the foreground of the dark hills that glow like embers in the last rays of the dying sun. Before it turned completely dark, I spiralled down the hill on a 'bike taxi' for my most awaited moment.

The colony of bats
Close to the base is a limestone cave that houses a colony of bats that numbers close to three million. I was sceptical initially, as I had not read about it in my guidebook or heard about it from fellow travellers, but I decided to give it a shot because the locals know best. We parked the bike on the roadside and stood solemnly like the handful of other people waiting for the spectacle. I turned my face towards the cave that a native pointed out and waited with bated breath. As the light began to dip, the distant din grew louder and slowly the insect bats spilled out of the cave's mouth, tumbling, reeling and getting back into the file that flew towards the fields each night in search of food. I stood there with my neck craned up for nearly an hour, amazed at this secret that Battambang cradles. As the last of the bats dissolved into the night, I left the site trying to discern the dark track still moving across the sky. I'm not sure if the bats earned Battambang a special place in my heart, but they would definitely be a big part of my reason to return.

Fact file
Getting there:
Fly to Siem Reap via Bangkok. From Siem Reap, it's a three-hour bus journey to Battambang.

Best time to go:
Winter (November-March) is the best time to beat the humidity.

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5 Secrets we must avoid telling our best friend

Certain secrets are best kept to oneself and it is not criminal if you don't whisper it out to your bestie. Here are the five 'it's ok to not disclose to your BFF' we've chalked out

As kids, you might have pledged a sorority to share your darkest secrets with each other, and that must have been stamped as a lifelong bond back then. But at times, it's okay to not tell your best friend everything under the sun. Keeping mum about some of the details doesn't really hurt or mean that you're making an effort to disrespect the sacred bond of 'friendship'. Sometimes 'not TMI' is fine, especially in front of your bestie. Here's our list of what's 'alright' to avoid telling your best friend.

1. Oops, I Know that already

"Guess what, my little brother is dating a girl, and arrghh, how I hate that woman!," exclaimed your enraged favourite pal over a plate of pasta while at a Sunday brunch with you. And you've almost choked on that spaghetti while deciding on 'should she know, shouldn't she know', because well, you did see her little brother coochie-cooing with this girl your best friend disapproves, and you also knew where it was heading. Such exclusive yet unwanted trivia, especially about her little brother or someone really close to her, trust us it's better left unsaid.

2. That's what your parents told me

When you've known a friend for the longest time, chances are their parents trust you more than them (unless they think you're the one responsible for shaping up the brat their kid is). So when your bosom friend's 'not-so-happy' parents are confiding in you about this certain something they can't discuss with their child, you can skip that from your friend. Whether it's about them or not, it's quite possible that your friend might feel a little threatened by your closeness to their parents.

3. Emm, yeah I did that

So you went for this office conference to Goa, guzzled drinks like it was nobody's business, and before you knew it, you'd made the stupidest mistake of your life, made out with your married boss. And yes, you're embarrassed and not very proud of the deed. It's okay if you keep this 'little secret from your BFF. It's best not to disclose fractions of info you think you're capable to erase in a jiffy, unless you want to make it a recurrent joke at get-togethers.

4. I'm involved, or maybe not

You might have walked into this situation a couple of times. Sometimes you think you're in a relationship but are not quite sure; or maybe there's that something special brewing up between new guy and you but, well, it's still at that raw stage. It's perfectly alright not to voice out your feelings, even if it is to your bestie, until you're certain about it. Take your time in announcing or introducing a date to your 'friend-forever', but once you're sure of Mr Perfect, maybe you can give your friend her much-deserved chance to sign and seal your decision.

5. I liked him too

Being the key organiser of your best friend's hen night, you've listed a game of truth or dare in the party agenda. We beg you; if the bottle points at you and a couple of friends scream out 'Give us the truth', at no level of intoxication should you utter 'Bestie, I had a huge crush on your fiance'. You don't want Miss BFF to feel insecure about you seducing her soul-mate, or guarding her husband from you. Avoid the drama and leave the crush bit unsaid, unless you've a bestie as cool as the tip of the iceberg.

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How to get your French sauce right

Chef Satbir Bakshi elaborates on the nature and texture of the five mother sauces and what makes them special...

French cusine is storming the city and our panel of experts, Chef Satbir Bakshi from The Oberoi and the duo from the French bistro Chez Vous, Frederic Fernandez and Satyen Melwani teach you how to get your sauces and techniques just right.

Fernandez says, "The basis of French cooking is the sauce. The base of most begins with a roux which is a cooked mixture of wheat flour and fat, traditionally clarified butter. It forms the base of three mother sauces, bechamel,veloute and espagnole."

Skill counter
Frederic Fernandez and Satyen Melwani get your techniques in place
-Most French food uses baking or a combination of pan searing and baking — cooking time is minimal with a focus on protecting the internal flavour of the main ingredient which maybe the meat or any vegetable.

-One of the most flamboyant and glamourous cooking techniques used is Flambeing. Pastis — a traditional fennel flavoured liqueur is warmed and then poured over a cooking dish close the the finish. The volatile mixture can then be lit up using a match stick or the burner. Contrary to common belief that this is done to burn off the alcohol, the actual reason is to caramelize the ingredients by flaming them a little. The French love caramelisation — This brings on an addition of sweetness and is present in many of our dishes such as the caramelised onion tart of the prawns flambeed in Pastis.

-Poaching is a short cooking method to simmer food and bring out a tender texture.

-Braising uses a flavoured liquid as a medium in which food is cooked slowly, to accentuate the flavour.

-Broiling and grilling are nearly identical cooking methods where an oiled piece of food is cooked over direct and moderately high heat.

Hollandaise
The best looking sauce is also the most difficult to make. Hollandaise is pleasant yellow in colour and has a mayo-like texture. It's prepared using eggs, vinegar, shallots, black pepper corn and oodles of clarified butter. The ingredients are whisked constantly over a double-burner until its consistency starts to change and it turns creamy.
Taste bud test : It feels rich on the tongue and leaves a mild sour aftertaste.
Goes best with : Eggs benedict, salmon.

Bechamel
One of the earliest sauces to be made, commonly known as white sauce. It's made using flour, butter, milk and cream. Milk is simmered for a few mintues and added to the roux while continuously whisking to avoid lump formation.
Taste bud test : Bechamel is smooth on the tongue due to the presence of velvety cream. It has a milky aroma and a slightly raw aftertaste coming from the flour.
Goes best with : Cannelloni, mushroom, chicken.

Espagnole
Another name for espagnole is brown sauce. The thick, viscous sauce is made with roasted meat bones, tomatoes, celery, bay leaf, pepper corn, carrot, boquet garni (tied bunch of herbs) and water. It is classically used as a base for sauces such as pepper and bordelaise.
Taste bud test : The sauce has a luscious buttery glaze top and an earthy, roasted meat-like flavour with a slight tang introduced by the tomatoes.
Goes best with : Chicken, lamb chops.

Veloute
Veloute is French for velvety. Made with equal portions of butter and flour, the sauce is white with a tinge of brown. Veloute can be made using chicken, fish or mushroom stock depending on your taste and preference. Ensure you whisk continously to avoid lumps.
Taste bud test : Due to the abundance of butter, it has a rich thick texture.
Goes best with : Poached and steam chicken, fish.

Tomate
The base sauce for our favourite Penne Arrabiata is the tomato sauce. Predominantly consisting of juicy Roman tomatoes, Tomate has evolved into provencal, amatriciana and puttanesca sauces. The traditional recipe is a medley of garlic, onions, celery, leek, peppercorn, bay leaf, carrots and tomatoes of course!
Taste bud test : The red sauce is chunky and tangy. If made well, it leaves a slightly piquant aftertaste of bay leaves.
Goes best with : Pizza base, penne, macaroni, baked dishes.

Crabe farci Chez Vous presents a signature French-style baked Crab with coconut
Crabe farci a la creole servis en habit, sauce rougail (pimen crase)French Caribbean style stuffed crab Served with its Rougail crushed chilly sauce

Chef's Tip : Make sure you cook with lemon and coconut milk and add chives only in the end only after the mix is cold or else the chives will wilt. Heat oil in a pan and temper chillies. Add chopped onions and garlic and sautee for a few minutes. Then add carrots, rosemary, thyme and sautee for another few mintues. Add crab meat and cook on medium heat. As it starts slightly sticking to the bottom of the pan, add coconut milk and lemon juice.

Check for seasoning, add breadcrumbs and blend into the mixture. Let it cool and then add chives, parsley and mix again. Stuff the mixture into crab shells. Just before serving, add powdered coconut on top and cook in the oven for a minute and half or until light browning occurs. Serve hot.

Ingredients
300gms crab meat
60gms carrot
10 gms chilly
10 gms garlic peeled
60 gms onion
5 gms thyme (chop rough)
5 gms rosemary (chop rough)
50 gms chives
juice of three limes
30 ml coconut mil
30 gms bread crumbs
15 ml milk
3 crab shells

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Do you love your sibling?

Take this quiz to find out whether there's a need for you to improve your relationship with your sibling

If you and your sibling are invited to a party. You would...
A. Go alone. Why does she have to be with me everywhere that I choose to go?
B. Go with her, but then hang out with your own bunch of buddies at the party.
C. Be spending all our time together.

If your sibling gets compliments for his outfit, you would ...
A. Try your best to change the topic. He always wants everyone's attention.
B. Feel good about it and join in.
C. Cheer him on and make sure everyone says something complimentary.

Your sibling asks you to have lunch with her. What would you do?
A. Find, or invent, some extremely urgent work and tell her that you're too busy.
B. Agree to go if you are up to it.
C. Of course, you will go with her even if you have bad tummy and a high fever.

You are out shopping with your sibling, and he chooses something that doesn't suit him. You would...
A. Let him buy it just to be mean.
B. Give your honest opinion, but let him make the final decision for himself.
C. Never say anything to hurt him.

Your sibling is alone while you are going out?
A. That's not your worry or concern.
B. You would ask if she needs anything or if she would like to join you.
C. You would hastily cancel all of your plans and stay by her side.

Mostly A:
You have problems that need to be sorted out. If your sibling feels the same way about you then you definitely need to take a step to salvage your relationship.
Mostly B:
You have a healthy relationship with your sibling. It also means that you are pretty confident about yourself and are secure about your relationship.
Mostly C:
You seem to be too dependent on your sibling. Your opinions and choices may not always be the same, but that doesn't mean your relationship is suffering.

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Every office needs a counsellor

Psychiatrist Harish Shetty recalls a few cases he treated that would have been nipped in the bud had there been a organisational counsellor at the patient's office

Every office needs a counsellor, just like every educational institute does. Among the many issues that rise, are a few common situations may emerge:

Office fears
Case 1: A Vasudev, an efficient employee found himself faltering and not meeting deadlines. He suddenly went on leave and sent false medical certificates that proved that he had malaria. The reason - he feared his new boss who had a tendency of humiliating his juniors in public. As he recovered with sessions, he responded effectively to his new boss. Regaining his composure, he found a better job. In his exit interview, he suggested to the HR that a counsellor within the office would have been a great help. Emotional pain caused by a boss, and increased work load can be addressed early by a mental health counsellor at work.

Case 2: S Sharbani was very irritable at her workplace. She took a break to go on a pilgrimage and a holiday abroad in vain. Troubled by incessant negative thoughts, she was emotionally paralysed. Disinterested in her work, she felt hopeless, cried often and slept less. She was diagnosed with clinical depression and required immediate treatment. An office counsellor could have helped her recover faster.

Building family bonds
Case 1: When R Tony shared with his office counselor his wife's remarks on how he spoke like a parrot and that he hardly spoke to her, the issue was taken up seriously. His thoughts were stagnant and he was bored. After a few sessions, Tony was delighted that his marriage was working again.

Case 2: M Sanzgiri was clueless about her only daughter's refusal to attend school that resulted in a lot of absenteeism at office. An early consultation led to instant diagnosis of school phobia and faster recovery. In cases like these, an office counsellor helps improve emotional contact time with the family.

Saving lives
Case 1: S Sadhu wanted to commit suicide when he realised that his girlfriend was dating another man. The office counsellor provided him emergency counselling and linked him with a mental health helpline too.

Case 2: A Norma almost hanged herself and was saved thanks to a counsellor who alerted the office after identifying signs of a probable suicide attempt via her colleagues. The office bridges the gap and shrinks the time between the onset of distress and early help.

Help at hand
With the help of a supportive management and via periodical workshops on emotional hygiene, anger management, parenting tips, and mood management are a few topics, counsellors at the workplace can enhance attendance, reduce attrition rates, identify emotional crisis at an early stage. Post appraisal, they can also counsel dissatisfied employees to accept the situation and assist growth. Conflict resolution and enhancing effective communication are other issues that can be addressed by the counsellor.

*Names have been changed to protect identities

(The writer is a senior psychiatrist based in Mumbai)

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Redefine the concept of 'kitchen garden'

Imagine the idea of plucking your own herbs and vegetables. No, you don't have to go to a far away place, but be right in your homes! More and more people are taking to redefining the idea of fresh greens and vegetables and shrinking the distance between the ingredients and the pan.

Mint, coriander, curry patta, lemon grass, wheatgrass, chillies and all herbs you can think of, even vegetable plants like tomato and lady finger are being nurtured in homes.

Nurseries vouch for the multiplying sales of herbs and vegetable plants that don't require much space. (In fact, the nurseries have seen quite a change too. At many places, women are at the helm of the affairs. Maybe this could be a reason that the pots being taken home these days are fruit bearing!)

Says horticulturist Anusha Babbar, "Particularly, in the last two-three years, the number of people taking home vegetable and herb saplings and pots has increased." She says, "All one needs to ensure is that the plants get ample sunlight, whether you keep them at a big window sill or a balcony. And if it's a terrace, then it's perfect,"

And, bringing these plants home is bringing in goodness, one way or the other. While horticulturists insist, and it isn't hard to accept either, that to most Indian homes herbs like pudina, curry patta and tulsi plants are not new, the vegetable bearing such herbs came into flats for educational purposes. Says Neha Shah, a mother of two growing up children, "As a kid, I remember spending my holidays in our village, where my grandfather would grow vegetables and fruits. In the city, children miss out on all that. So I thought of bringing home a tomato and a ladyfinger plant for my children to see how nature blesses us." Her kids love to see how their food comes into being, and she says because of its freshness, the food tastes very good too.

Vandana Shah, who once had a sprawling garden on their bungalow's terrace, agrees, "Vegetables from our own garden were definitely tastier. In fact they need lesser masalas." It was her father-in-law Padmashree Dr Ramesh Doshi, who brought city farming to suburbs. He was considered one of the initiators of the Green Revolution of the 1960s. And without doubt it's said that their terrace farm yielded five kg of fruits and vegetables throughout the year. Taking the family's project forward, she's convinced some of her friends too to grow arvi leaves. "It's very easy to grow, and the leaves are tasty and not fattening too. They almost grow on their own in this season," explains Shah.

Chefs like Arindam Bahel also sing praises of fresh ingredients used in cooking. "We have a small kitchen garden, a semi-organic, vermiculture project were shives, mint, and garlic are grown. The quantity is minuscule, but we do utilise it in our oriental restaurant. The fresh ones are rich in their vitamins and minerals. This can be felt on our taste buds too. And of course, he says, "The heightened tastes also come from psychological play. It's the fruit of our own labour. And we know exactly how fresh it is. It lends pure pleasure to the experience of cooking and eating."

For Zarina Khan, her herb plants have made life very convenient for her. "I once just tucked a pudina strand in my pot and it began to grow. Now, whenever I am cooking and I need mint, I just go to my window and pluck fresh leaves."

Think about it: Already most of us have potted flowering plants or the hassle-free money plant for a little green to soothe our visual senses in the midst of the concrete jungle. But city farming could well add value to your meals too. A pot or a basket is enough and you have the freshest vegetable to dish up your daily meals — all organic and almost free!

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Guide to balancing parenting and sex

Parenting and sex with your partner can often collide. Here's how to balance the two

Being a parent needn't ring a death knell for your sex life, but it is wise to keep the two apart. While it's important that children witness moments of love and sharing between parents — holding hands, cuddling, and sharing a light kiss — it's important to figure what's appropriate around them and not. Here's a guide to striking a balance, and how you should react if you are caught out.

Your baby is 10 months old
Your baby is old enough to stand upright in its crib, and watch the two of you get intimate. Worse, it's staring at you and gurgling. Should you stop? Experts say, keep at it. Until your baby is about two years old, it won't register what's going on. But, with kids around, it's tough to slip into heady passion. Moms find it especially tough. If you can't slip into another room, distract your baby with a toy.

Your baby is a pre-schooler
Some three year-olds with a separate room still prefer to crawl into bed with their parents, especially during moments of insecurity. "I had a bad dream!" is a favourite. If you are in the middle of canoodling, and your child walks in, stop. You should not be having sex in front of your kids. That's the rule. Shift to another room or wait till it falls asleep.

Your baby is four, and walks into the shower
You've decided to shower together, when you baby walks in. It wants to know what's going on, and might even point to a private part and get curious about it. Don't freak out at being seen naked. It's your child, after all. When it is old enough to tell you it is not comfortable seeing the two of you like this, it will tell you anyway. Read the cues.

Your baby is five, and swings open the door
A five year-old is not old enough to make the right connections, and could misinterpret what's going on. It interprets movement differently from adults. If your child sleeps in a neighbouring room, make sure your door is locked. In case, it walks in on the two of you making out, don't lie. Say you were enjoying private time, slip on your clothes, and share a tight hug of reassurance.

Your child is seven, and playing a video game
Older kids need to be told gently that parents need private time, without going into the details. So, in case it jumps up from a session of playing video games, and bangs on the door, demanding you open up, ask it to wait, slip on your clothes, and have a chat when you are out. Sharing the importance of knocking before entering will work wonders.

Your child is ten, and has friends over
When kids are older, and especially when they are with someone else's kids, it's important to ensure that they do not see or hear too much. It can confuse and upset them. If your child is in the adjoining room watching a movie with friends, make sure you keep the television in your room on to drown out any whoops of passion.

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10 Things a woman should know

We list 10 things every woman should know

1. Calling you does not mean we are hitting on you
Most men are left wondering that why's it that just because he called you, you assumed he wants you to fill in the post of his girlfriend. He may actually just want to hang out with you.

2. You are much prettier without all that makeup
Your basic foundation and kajal is fine, but layers upon layers of makeup only makes you unappealing to your guy. So keep it simple.

3. When you act giggly, it's seriously embarrassing
When you spot your gang of girls while you are out with your boyfriend, don't squeal and go giggly or jump up and down. Most men find it extremely childish.

4. Gossiping, whispering and writing notes makes you look shallow
When you pass notes or whisper when you and your friends are sitting at a table along with others makes it seem like you are still in your classroom.

5. Boys worry about what you think of their hair, skin, weight and clothes
Do tell your boyfriend if you think his new haircut makes him look cute or if his favourite T-shirt needs to be done away with.

6. PMS is no excuse to be mean
Yes, men do understand that every month you are likely to get crabby for a few days, but that's not reason enough to be mean and cranky all the time.

7. Talking about your butt is boring
It's a known fact that no boyfriend — who doesn't want to be dumped — will ever tell his girfriend that she is looking fat. So no in point discussing, arguing and then discussing some more, about weight issues with your boyfriend.

8. Tight clothes make you look sort of desperate and insecure
You may be in shape but anything that amounts to too much skin show is not going to be appreciated by your boyfriend. Don't keep showing how desperate you are. It can be a big put off if the guy is serious about you.

9. Most boys are looking for the right girl
It's not just women who are looking for Mr Right, but boys are looking out for their Miss Perfect too. So don't be scared to play the love game.

10. If you like him, just tell him
Don't pretend to ignore him and then cry when he asks another girl out for dinner. If he's interested in you, and if you feel the same way then respond. Don't keep the guy waiting too long.

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Your guide to body piercing

Here's what to keep in mind if you're going in for a piercing

Body parts piercings may be a cool fashion statement but if you're thinking of getting one, you must know the right place to get it done from and how to take care of it to avoid infection. Remember that although getting yourself pierced may just take a few seconds, it may be weeks before it heals completely. Here's what you need to keep in mind.

Go to an expert

Going to an experienced professional should be your top priority. Make sure that his instruments are sterilized and insist on checking them beforehand - you don't want to be stuck with an infection much less a disease.

Ask questions

It's okay to ask him all your doubts, don't feel awkward about sounding silly. Make sure that he's wearing disposable gloves during the piercing process and familiarise yourself with the procedure before you actually go for it.

The process

The area that you want pierced will first be disinfected using an antiseptic. After a few minutes, a sterile needle will be used for the piercing. Thereafter the area will be cleaned and you can insert a piece of jewellery of your choice. Make sure you're aware about any allergies you have to some metals and go in surgical steel since it is the safest.

Post care

While your expert will tell you exactly what you need to take care of your new piercing, you need to take extra precautions yourself.

Oral piercings

A lip or tongue piercing approximately takes over four weeks to heal. Initially you need ice it regularly to reduce swelling. You would also need to stick to a diet where not much chewing is required and gargle with a mouthwash after every meal. If you've pierced your lip, use an antibiotic cream daily. Avoid touching the ring or stud and don't remove it until your wound is completely healed.

Other piercings

Remember to wash your hands before cleaning the pierced area. Pus discharge is considered normal, wash it gently with luke-warm water. Use a mild soap and lightly clean the pierced area and rinse it off. The person who pierced you will probably give you something that you need to apply for the piercing to heal.

Remember

-If you've got a body piercing, preferably wear loose clothes.

-Avoid swimming

-Never sleep on a new piercing, as you might pull it accidently.

-Ensure that your phone or headphones are clean or you risk the chance of having an infected ear piercing.

saadia.dhailey@timesgroup.com

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4 Types of tea leaf symbols

Find out what those patterns at the bottom of your cup signify.

The Four Types of Symbols
Tea leaf symbols are broken down into four main categories. They are:

People
This can be divided into two parts: people and body parts. It could be an indication of the role of a certain person in your life.

Animals
The types of animals which appear in a tea-leaf reading often mirror our hopes, fears, or dreams. They can also reveal personal qualities that we are expressing or show us the inner truth of how we are feeling.

Objects
Objects reflect what we create and generate, be it positive energy or chaos.

(Compiled by Melissa D'costa)

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Singapore's Merlion statue, a wonder

The Merlion statue area, situated near Hotel Fullerton is a tourist's delight

The Merlion statute situated in the Merlion park, with the body of a fish and head of a lion is the symbol of Singapore, ensconced on the banks of the Singapore river, near the historic Fullerton Hotel giving a spectacular view, if you happen to go to Singapore. The ideal time to visit Merlion Park is evening around 5pm. As you go down the steps and sit on one of those steps clicking pictures of the landscape of Singapore with the Merlion, it becomes an ideal time to pass the evening even if you are alone.

On the steps, you find many families and couples gazing at the colourful landscape of Singapore marked with their tallest skyscraper hotel Marina Bay Sands, they do a wonderful light show as the sun sets. The place becomes even more breathtaking as it turns darker. The area around the Merlion facing the Anderson bridge is picturesque and you see tourists across the world clicking pictures and taking videos with their families. As you walk down the other side, you find a string of restaurants and gourmet cafes on the banks of the river, giving their guests an opportunity to sip cocktails and gorge on starters and enjoy a romantic evening watching the river.

One should sample the local cuisine restaurants, which serve amazing 'Kopi' (a Singapore way of making coffee) 'Kaya'(butter-jam toast preparation) and 'Laksa' (a coconut gravy dish made with eggs) that are typical of Singapore. With live musicians playing music and performing by the banks of the river and water flowing out from the Merlion, you don't realise how hours skip away. The cycle rickshaw rides are also fun.

Once you have had a fill of walking around the Merlion park, don't miss the 'chocolate buffet' that the Fullerton Hotel situated across the Merlion Park arranges on weekends. A must-do for all those who love feasting on chocolates.

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