Raising children suffering from ADHD
Dealing with a child who suffer from Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) can be tricky to deal with. But certainly not impossible. Parents should brace themselves for tantrums, arguments, hyperactivity and mood swings — all classic symptoms of ADHD. Here are some tips for parents on raising children who have ADHD.
Don't hide the fact from your child that he/ she has ADHD. There is nothing wrong in telling them the truth instead of hiding it and making it worse. Sit down with your child and gently explain what it is and how medication will be able to help them control it. Don't make it seem like it is their fault — it isn't! ADHD is a brain disorder that simply makes it difficult for a person to concentrate or complete tasks. Be open about it and let your child know that you're there to help and assist, not rant and rave.
Don't put extra pressure on your child to perform better. Very often, parents get worried about school work suffering due to inconsistent performance. ADHD children often do well sometimes and then suddenly perform badly or very average. Parents should refrain from comparing the good and bad performances because such children do have problems with consistency. Instead, help them cope with bad grades by telling them where they went wrong and how they can improve in those areas.
Don't allow your child to get into a habit of blaming ADHD for all their lows. Discourage behaviour when your child says he/ she can't do something because they suffer from ADHD. Instead, create challenges and goals that they strive to accomplish and give rewards when the situation demands it.
Be firm when you have to be and lenient when you feel you should be. The idea is to strike a balance so that your child doesn't feel pigeonholed or as if he/ she has it easy. Make sure that you implement rules in an unfazed manner. While dealing with an ADHD child can be testing at the best of times, learn how to deal with them in a patient and calm manner. Don't dole out punishments in anger or frustration.
Encourage your child in what he/ she is good at. Whether it is art and craft, sports, books, dancing, singing or any other hobby that they're good at and enjoy doing, as a parent you should inspire your child to give it their best. And never, ever compare them to another child.
While it is natural to feel extra protective about a child, who suffers from ADHD, don't suffocate them with your over vigilant behaviour. Such children also need their independence and often flourish when it is given to them. Let them learn to fly and fall at their own pace — give them a chance to solve problems instead of always offering them solutions.
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