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Raising children suffering from ADHD

Written By kom nampultig on Rabu, 22 Oktober 2014 | 18.47

Raising children suffering from ADHD

Dealing with a child who suffer from Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) can be tricky to deal with. But certainly not impossible. Parents should brace themselves for tantrums, arguments, hyperactivity and mood swings — all classic symptoms of ADHD. Here are some tips for parents on raising children who have ADHD.
Don't hide the fact from your child that he/ she has ADHD. There is nothing wrong in telling them the truth instead of hiding it and making it worse. Sit down with your child and gently explain what it is and how medication will be able to help them control it. Don't make it seem like it is their fault — it isn't! ADHD is a brain disorder that simply makes it difficult for a person to concentrate or complete tasks. Be open about it and let your child know that you're there to help and assist, not rant and rave.
Don't put extra pressure on your child to perform better. Very often, parents get worried about school work suffering due to inconsistent performance. ADHD children often do well sometimes and then suddenly perform badly or very average. Parents should refrain from comparing the good and bad performances because such children do have problems with consistency. Instead, help them cope with bad grades by telling them where they went wrong and how they can improve in those areas.
Don't allow your child to get into a habit of blaming ADHD for all their lows. Discourage behaviour when your child says he/ she can't do something because they suffer from ADHD. Instead, create challenges and goals that they strive to accomplish and give rewards when the situation demands it.
Be firm when you have to be and lenient when you feel you should be. The idea is to strike a balance so that your child doesn't feel pigeonholed or as if he/ she has it easy. Make sure that you implement rules in an unfazed manner. While dealing with an ADHD child can be testing at the best of times, learn how to deal with them in a patient and calm manner. Don't dole out punishments in anger or frustration.
Encourage your child in what he/ she is good at. Whether it is art and craft, sports, books, dancing, singing or any other hobby that they're good at and enjoy doing, as a parent you should inspire your child to give it their best. And never, ever compare them to another child.
While it is natural to feel extra protective about a child, who suffers from ADHD, don't suffocate them with your over vigilant behaviour. Such children also need their independence and often flourish when it is given to them. Let them learn to fly and fall at their own pace — give them a chance to solve problems instead of always offering them solutions.


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3 alternatives to traditional marriage

If you are not someone who would like to tie the knot the established way, here's what you can go in for

Living together
One of the best alternatives to traditional marriages, living together is an ideal way to discover yourself as well as your partner. Marriage is all about commitment between two individual, so is love. Thus, if you are madly in love with your beloved, but both are not willing to tie the knot, living with each other is a great option.

Stayover relationship
A relationship trend that has gained momentum in the West, a stayover relationship is more like a living in relationship, but here you only stay with your partner once or twice in a week. It's more like spending the nights together under one roof, despite having separate houses.

Open marriage
This one is probably one of the hardest relationship trends and is mostly misunderstood by couples. An open marriage or an open relationship is being together but having an understanding that if you wish to move out of the relationship, you are free to do that without being questioned or emotionally targeted by the other person.

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Ways to celebrate an eco-friendly Deepavali

Deepavali is all about bursting crackers, binging on sweets and savouries and not to miss, shopping.

With the markets in the city abuzz with festive fervour, the spirit of Deepavali should be celebrated with thoughtfulness. Though it is a happy festival, one should also remember that this day also witnesses noise pollution, air pollution, wastage of paper, electricity and heavy usage of plastic. Without compromising on the happiness factor, it is important to go soundless, eco-friendly and green this Deepavali. Chennai Times offers some tips on how to celebrate a green Deepavali...
Create a community to burst crackers: What's a Deepavali without crackers? Though some people have gone completely soundless by not bursting crackers at all, it is hard for a few to stop. Environmentalist Abdul Ghani says that they still burst crackers without harming the everyday lives of people. He says, "In several foreign countries, they identify a point and burst crackers. With fire extinguishers and other safety methods in place, the event takes place with utmost ease. While we can't expect to witness something similar, I suggest people from every locality pick a common point and burst crackers.

For instance, people in T Nagar can get together on that day and burst crackers in a playground in their locality. This way, others can enjoy walking on the roads safely and it also reduces the noise pollution. Even cleaning the roads becomes easier as it is all accumulated in one place." Abdul also adds, "In our country, still animals and rag pickers consume food from the bins. With chemicals from crackers being dumped in the waste bins across your homes, it is quite dangerous when they consume. When we do it in a community, the waste is collected once and for all and dumped. This is also a way to help them as well."
Avoid plastic bags while shopping: Shopping for Deepavali is a never-ending one. Be it buying clothes or things required for the festive puja, people are constantly buying something. Abdul says that instead of taking plastic covers, take your own bags instead. "A huge amount of plastic gets generated during this period. Carry cloth bags or recycled paper bags whenever you shop," he suggests.
Make your own sweets and savouries: Not many people make sweets and savouries at home. Several young couples opt for buying sweets. "It is best for people to make their own sweets and savouries. This way, you can be sure about the ghee and oil that you use. Even if you can't make them, carry banana leaves or steel containers to pack your sweets from the shop. It is highly risky and cancerous to carry eatables in plastic containers," Ghani says.
Use mud diyas to decorate your home: Instead of wasting money and electricity by illuminating your home with decorative lights, opt for mud diyas, which are more eco-friendly. You can even paint them and decorate them as you wish. It is easily disposable as well.

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Parents often ignore childhood obesity

Parents often fail to recognise their children's weight gain as a health concern, says a study.

Parents of obese children often do not recognise the potentially serious health consequences of childhood weight gain or the importance of daily physical activity in helping their child reach a healthy weight, the findings showed.

"Parents have a hard time changing their child's dietary and physical activity behaviours," said lead author Kyung Rhee, an assistant adjunct professor at University of California, San Diego School of Medicine in the US.

The study is based on a survey of 202 parents whose children were enrolled in an obesity clinic at the Hasbro Children's Hospital in Providence, Rhode Island in 2008 and 2009.

Although most of the children had been referred to the obesity clinic by a primary care provider and had metabolic markers of obesity, 31.4 percent of parents perceived their child's health as excellent or very good and 28 percent did not perceive their child's weight as a health concern.

The study appeared online in the Journal of the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics.

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In pics: 9 Cruel things men do to women



Love him or hate him, but you can't ignore him - yes, we are talking about the man of your life. He's probably the most loving creature in your life, but he can also be the perpetual torture in ways more than one. Here, we bring the top 10 cruel things that men do to women...(Thinkstock Photos/ Getty Images) 

9 Cruel things men do to women



Having the biggest ego: Ever wondered why men hate taking directions and prefer hunting out the place on their own, even if it means 2 hours delay and waste of gas. Well, the answer is the big ego they walk around with. (Thinkstock Photos/ Getty Images) 

9 Cruel things men do to women



Living with a 'selective memory': They'll not only remember the name of every cricketer and football player on the planet but will also know their scores by heart. But, the moment the deal is about remembering birthdays and anniversaries of people close to them, their brain suffers an ailment called 'selective memory syndrome'. (Thinkstock Photos/ Getty Images) 

9 Cruel things men do to women



Ogling (read at breasts): 'Men do stare at women's breasts' has been stamped as official by a world wide survey. But how we wish they knew that their drooling at the sight of a well endowed woman is cruel not only to the victim of that gaze, but also to the woman sitting beside them. (Thinkstock Photos/ Getty Images) 

9 Cruel things men do to women



Being overtly possessive: Where in the world did men get that insecurity from? (Their mother? )They blame women for being jealous but a mere mention of another man from their girl can turn them into an ever clinging magnet. (Thinkstock Photos/ Getty Images) 

9 Cruel things men do to women



Taking pride in their hypocrisy: Men can't get more cruel than this! They love hanging around with the coolest and sexiest babe in the town, but when it comes to meeting mom, it's a 'homely' girl they start hunting for. You loved her dressing style and carefree attitude when she came for night-outs with you, what's with that marriage material hunt now? (Thinkstock Photos/ Getty Images) 

9 Cruel things men do to women



Showing extra care: How does it feel to take his 'where-about' calls every 15 minutes after you step out of the home? The care in that gesture goes out of the window and irritation takes charge. Don't they realise that we lived safe, sound and perfectly well in this world before they came into our lives. (Thinkstock Photos/ Getty Images) 

9 Cruel things men do to women



Throwing their 'superman' self everywhere: Yes, it feels nice when men are around for some help. However, their 'I-can-do-everything-under-the-sun' attitude does more harm than good, especially when they think themselves to be exalted beings - a plumber, electrician, carpenter and a financial adviser all rolled into one. (Thinkstock Photos/ Getty Images) 

9 Cruel things men do to women



Consider emotions to be crap: Women might be emotional but having a constant practical point of view, like men doesn't, score well always. Men will become better beings for sure, if they stop making fun of sentiments and ignoring them as useless. (Thinkstock Photos/ Getty Images) 

9 Cruel things men do to women



Being the sex monster: Undoubtedly, women love zest in bed, but it's very cruel of men to demand their partners to play the porn star they saw in that flick last night. It's better to let her be herself in a sexapade rather than putting her in an uncomfy situation and then blaming her for being non-cooperative. (Thinkstock Photos/ Getty Images) 

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Yoga for kids

Written By kom nampultig on Selasa, 21 Oktober 2014 | 18.47

Kids these days lead a fast-paced life where they are stressed with the pressures of studies, extra-curricular activities, peer pressure and sports. These may not appear stressful to us, but it does leave an impact on them. Yoga can be effective for kids and positive way to de-stress.

Yoga instructor Priya Pankaj says, "Yoga for kids is all about learning and exploring with joy. Yoga asanas and pranayama (breathing techniques) calm their mind and help kids to improve their concentration and perform day-to-day activities better. It also works as a good break from their regular indoor activities which makes them hyper and restless. We have also customised certain asanas and worked on breathing patterns to train kids who have a learning disability."
YOGA AND STRESS We may not realise it, but children do get affected by the speed with which their parents expect them to lead their life. A lot of events in a child's life may appear to be normal to grown-ups but are stressors, like a transfer of parents from one place to another, or shifting of schools and making new friends. These things leave a deep impact on their little heads. Psychologist Seema Hingorrany says, "These days, we are seeing a rise in young children with complaints of stress, anxiety, emotional disturbances and low concentration. The reasons can be academic pressure, efficiency to cope with parental pressures, juggling between too many activities and an improper diet routine. Many children also come from backgrounds where parents are just about to separate or their divorce is in the pipeline, which does impact the child psychologically. Dysfunctional families too cause a lot of turmoil and conflict in a child's mind, leading to mental health concerns. Yoga often helps to combat these pressures and induce the feel-good hormone, endorphin."

To this yoga instructor, Rajnish Mishra adds, "The best way to manage stress in kids is through regular exercising, especially yoga since it works on the body and mind and brings about complete wellness. Kids needs to breathe in fresh air and a little bit of yoga before their exams can do magic."

YOGA AND DISCIPLINE By doing yoga, kids can be aware and disciplined. Aarti Kapur Singh, a mother of a six-and-a-half-year-old, says, "My son has been learning yoga in school for about two years. He is not only more active but I have also noticed that he is less hyper on the days he does yoga. Sometimes, when he is in the park and his friends aren't around, he is happy to be just by himself and practice the asanas. Not just that, if ever I tell him that my back or knee or shoulder is paining, he will promptly start demonstrating an asana that I should do and it does help. My son was prone to colic. But I have noticed that ever since he has started doing padmasana, his digestion is much better and he eats without fuss."
Kids who are hyperactive need to do a lot of physical activity and yoga can be a bright way to help them move in a positive direction. It's a great way to gain awareness of their bodies and surroundings.

ENHANCES CONFIDENCE IN KIDS Yoga enhances confidence in kids. It teaches awareness about the present moment. Kids learn to value time and become more aware in life. Yoga teaches them to be focused. The lessons that kids learn in yoga classes makes them more confident about their potential and perform better academically. Asanas help them to connect with their inner self. "Yoga is like a journey of a lifetime and the earlier you take it up, the better it is," adds Rajnish Mishra.

-Remember, kids will be kids so laugh with them as you do the cow, cat, camel and crow asanas -Try to keep their enthusiasm high by constantly encouraging them -Use some fun work-outs and make them roll on a yoga ball -Give funny names to different poses so that they feel happy about the whole practice of doing asanas

The Triangle pose (trikonasan): Stretches and strengthens legs, chest, and spine Camel pose (Ustrasana): Stretches the entire front of the body, opens up the abdomen, throat, and strengthens the back muscle
Butterfly (Titli Asana): Helps in digestion and gives a good stretch to the inner thighs and groin
The Half Tortoise pose( ardha kurmasana): Helps in relaxing and stretches the back and spine

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How to choose your nail polish

Choosing the perfect nail colour is not an easy job. If chosen carelessly, it might end up making your hands look dark.

Always keep your complexion in mind while choosing a shade. Pale-for-pale and dark-for-dark is the mantra. Warm shades like bronze, wine and mauve work best for ladies with medium to dark complexion.

Nude shades and colours like pale rose suit people with brighter skin tones.

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3D or electric: Which cracker to buy for Diwali

We bring a list of what crackers to look out for this Diwali.

While environmentalists and green activists have been advocating not bursting crackers on Diwali because of the increase in air and noise pollution that it causes, patakha lovers continue to look for the latest variants in the market of the traditional anar, chakri and rocket. While there are a whole lot of new crackers in the market this Diwali, eco-friendly fireworks are the most promising. Here's what to look for in the markets this season.

3D adds a new dimension to patakhas: The next-gen fire crackers are here - the 3D patakhas, which are the hottest-selling crackers in town this Diwali. Gulsher Azad, a wholesaler, says, "This is the first time ever that 3D firecrackers have been launched in India. They are based on pyro technique. A packet of 3D fireworks comes with a 3D glass. There are 18 varieties of 3D crackers available in the market like flower pots, Roman candles, sparklers and aerial shells."

"The light effect of these 3D firecrackers can be seen through 3D glasses," adds Ravi Agarwal another seller. He goes on to claim, "And they don't produce any kind of sound and are also pollution-free." A 3D cracker starts at `500 and goes up to `1,500. Electrifying!

Ishan Khan, who has an electric goods shop, is also selling crackers this Diwali, apart from the fancy lights. "Sunne mein thoda ajeeb lagega that an electric goods shop is selling patakhas, but what we have are electric crackers," says Khan, adding, "The sale of these crackers is slow, for the simple reason that they cost `1,800 a piece."

But how does an electric cracker work? "These crackers produce a loud sound, and can be reused umpteen number of times.They have an electronic circuit which produces a high decibel sound when switched on. They are also pollution-free. It's mostly people who have kids at home are buying these crackers, because they don't involve any fire." Mohd Shadab, owner of a firecrackers shop, adds, "In fact, electric firecrackers were launched last year, but we had minimal stock. This year, the stock is not a problem."

Green patakhas: With so much talk about a green Diwali, it's no surprise that we finally have what are called eco-friendly crackers, which can be burst inside the house! "People have become conscious about the damage firecrackers cause to the environment by emitting pollution. So, eco-friendly fireworks are getting a lot of buyers this year. They are very safe to handle," says Azad. The icing on the cake is that they are pocket-friendly too, and cost anything from `35 to `350. Eco-friendly crackers are made of recycled paper and do not contain chemicals, unlike the conventional fire crackers. They emit less smoke and noise, and produce colourful sparks.

Adds Shadab, "We are noticing an increase in demand of eco-friendly crackers with each passing year and therefore, we have increased its stock this year by 50% from the last year."

Bomb Bombed: Fireworks dealers in the city say that these new age crackers have made a lot of popular patakhas of the past lose their sparkle. One of them are the bombs, or other loud crackers. "Due to a decrease in demand of such crackers, we have slashed the stock of bombs and other sound-producing firecrackers by half this year. Even then, not even 50% of that stock is expected to be sold this Diwali," shares Ravi.

Bollywood beauties have been the popular choice of image for patakha manufacturers. And for some, who's on the most patakha packets is also an index of the stars' popularity. "Sonakshi Sinha is seen on maximum covers of firecrackers," says Mohd Shadab, "She has left other actresses behind this Diwali."

Fireworks dealers also say that owing to the Modi wave in the country this year, they are expecting Modi crackers as well. "Every year popular personalities from the country get a space in the firework market and we were expecting PM Narendra Modi to be leading that list this year, but that hasn't happened so far," says Gulsher.

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How to make the perfect healthy omelette

Eggs can be prepared by several methods, but the trick is to not over cook it. Anjali Shah explains how to prepare one of her favourite breakfast recipe, an omelette - in a healthy way!


3 egg whites, and a tiny bit of yolk (maybe 1/4 of the yolk)
1 tbsp low fat organic milk
Sprinkle of salt (to taste)
Sprinkle of black pepper (to taste)
1 tsp olive oil
1/4 teaspoon brown mustard seeds
1/8 teaspoon turmeric
2 green onions, finely chopped
1/4 cup diced tomato
1/4 cup diced bell pepper
Optional: handful diced baby spinach


Step 1: Combine salt, pepper, eggs and milk in a small bowl. Stir with a whisk until just blended (do not overbeat).

Step 2: Heat oil in a large skillet over medium-high heat. Add mustard seeds and turmeric; cook 30 seconds or until seeds pop, stirring frequently. Add onions; cook 30 seconds or until soft, stirring frequently. Add tomato, bell pepper and spinach; cook 1 minute or until very soft, stirring frequently.

Step 3: Lower heat to medium. Pour egg mixture into pan; spread evenly. Cook until edges begin to set (about 2 minutes). Slide front edge of spatula between edge of omelette and pan. Gently lift edge of omelette, tilting pan to allow some uncooked egg mixture to come in contact with pan. Repeat procedure on the opposite edge.

Step 4: Continue cooking until center is just set (about 2 minutes). Loosen omelette with a spatula, and fold in half. Carefully slide omelette onto a plate. Enjoy!

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Sex is the holiest act in this black age: Poonam Uppal

Book Review: A Passionaate Gospel of True Love
Author: Poonam Uppal
Publisher: Levaanah Publication
Pages: 1, 084

Poonam Uppal's latest offering is a fresh take on Vatsyana's Kama Sutra that popular perception treats as a 'sex manual'. Poonam's book is a sincere attempt to examine and demystify skewed notions attached to one of the primary works available on human sexuality.

Holy Kama Sutra
One of the prominent aspects the author deals with is the 'holiness' of the Kama Sutra. Ask her to elaborate on the divine revelations and she says, "Holy Kama Sutra is the ultimate, final mathematical Droodle- "Union of twin souls, split halves, true lovers and also a perfect solution for the modern menace called 'Divorce-Breakup-Heartache'. Each soul must find and unite with its twin soul. Every soul on this earth has a spiritual twin soul that is their exact polar opposite. No matter how far your twin soul is, if your yearning is fierce and sincere at the dawn of the Aquarius age, the powerful magnetic pull of split halves will bring you face to face with your 'True Lover'. Union of these souls is the ultimate 'Holy Kama Sutra'."

Kama Sutra as holistic science
Being part of a conservative Punjabi family, Poonam was never apprehensive about dreaming big. As a successful fashion designer, she found her true calling in writing. Becoming a writer paved a way for her to go back to her childhood years which were spent amid adversities. Her journey led to a gradual emancipation of her character, both in the book and in reality. The story of Moh Lal Rai in 'A Passionaate Gospel of True Love' draws inspiration from significant chapters of the author's life. With an aspiration to become the next big sensation in the fashion world as an internationally acclaimed designer, Moh is guided by a divine force that leads her on a tour . This sets off the search for her 'true lover'. Much like the author, who is a staunch believer in the power of Ma Durga, Moh in this book is commanded by a goddess to turn into a Love Messiah to unravel the deep secrets of 'Love', 'Passion', 'Romance', 'Life' and 'Death'. "This book is a true love story of mine and my journey 'From designer to divine'. I have changed names and places to safeguard the interest of my near and dear ones," explains Poonam.

No more a land of goddesses
The aim of this book is not to delve into areas of sexuality or positions of love-making; the purpose is to achieve a spiritual experience of love. Erotica is not what Poonam would like to categorise this book under, "My book is a mystical true love story of two divine lovers who were pulled apart by an evil curse of a soul and now the divine lovers have taken birth in this modern age. One of the lovers, Moh Lal Rai, accidentally unravels the lost, esoteric, cryptic writing of 'Ancient Art of True Love and Holy Kama Sutra'. Sex is the holiest act in this black age. In this Kalyug, sex act alone could become the means to salvation and the ritual of love making alone could reach true lovers and twin souls to attain the ultimate state of Nirvana," asserts Poonam.

Apart from exploring the "lost, ancient, esoteric, occult scripture of Kama Shastra," as Poonam describes it, she also investigates into the many truths of 'sacred love'. Also, readers get a chance to comprehend the complexities of 'Tantric Sex' discussed in great detail in the book. Ask her about the status of women in India and the rising cases of sexual violence, she explains, "Violence against women is a gift of this new age. Today, neither a woman worships a man nor does a man worship a woman. This is the reason why once again it is time for 'Bharat' to slow down and bring our ancient morals and values, say no to premarital sex and search for our twin souls, so that we can make our nation divine and use the slogan 'Shining India' with pride."

Future projects
Currently, Poonam Uppal is compiling her collection of old poems in a book titled, 'Under the green parasol of Kadamb'. She is also working on her next book, 'What Ever It Takes' along with 'How to find your Twin Soul' which can serve as a handbook for true lovers.

(Originally published on August 20, 2014)

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