Do you tell your partner a little too much?

Sharing daily life events with your loved one is fine, but it can also lead to problems in your relationship if you go overboard with it.

"I have always been frank with my husband and would discuss about a particular colleague of mine who I was very good friends with. However with time I realised that it didn't go down too well with my husband and in no time he suspected me of having an affair with him and divorced me," says Prerona Saha, a 31-year-old advertising professional.

While it is believed that one must confine in his or her partner, sometimes sharing too much information might also ruin your relationship. Says marriage counsellor Dr. Sanjoy Mukerji, "Many a times couples do not know where to draw a line in their relationship. Either they end up doing too much or too little for one another and this is where the problem begins. Balance is crucial for a healthy marriage or a relation."

What you should share

Figure out what are the things that will not harm your relationship. This you can do by understanding what it that your husband and wife is comfortable knowing. It can be anything from discussing about colleagues you are close to at work, office-related problems, disputes with in-laws, family members or talks about intimacy, physical relationship between the two of you etc. Says Avira Karmakar, a 28-year-old banker, "In my three years of marriage, I have realised that I can discuss about my mother-in-law openly with my husband. Normally your spouse may get defensive when you show your dislike towards his or her parents. But my husband is open to hearing me talk about her and often gives advice on how to handle situations involving her as well. This has worked out favourable in our marriage. Similarly, if he has any problems with my parents or family members, I give him advice too."

What you should not share

Opines Dr Mukerji, "Ex-boyfriend/girlfriend, hurtful things involving parents or family members, or embarrassing things about your spouse are some of the things that you should not share with your partner. Not only does it hurt your partner's sentiments but also may lead to a problem or end in your marriage or relationship.

Dos and don'ts of sharing in a relationship

Do
Share information about people at work. Not only will it help your husband or wife to understand them better but will also drive away insecurities if any.

Share little secrets. It's always nice to talk about what you and your gal pals are planning to do over the weekend or if your boy gang is planning a night out.

Share if you are planning to throw a surprise party for your parents or children. You can also involve your spouse or partner in the plan.

Don't

Don't give away passwords of social networking sites or bank pin numbers. Though you might trust your partner completely, it can be misused as well.

Don't discuss everything related to money. There are certain things that you should exclusively keep with yourself, no matter what.

Don't talk about an ex with your partner is not comfortable with it. It may lead to suspicion or problems in your relationship.